Should I have been told by ER staff that my 14 yr old tested positive?

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My daughter was hospitalized for depression/anxiety. This is her 4th hospitalization in less than 1 year. She has never experimented with street drugs, but of course has been routinely tested many times. When she's stable, she is an active participant in her care and wants to get better. I am the mom of 4 and she is not the oldest. We are a close family and I'm an involved parent. 
Over the weekend, she was not acting normally. She was under her doctor's care and I was keeping her at home, while adjusting her anti-anxiety medication. The only outside person she saw over the weekend was her 14 yr old best friend. She had extreme mood swings for 3 days and became suicidal yesterday. I rushed her to the ER. She had been seen in ER Sunday night and by her doctor yesterday morning. We all assumed she had a rare adverse reaction to klonopin. It did not explain why she acted very up, stayed up all night Saturday, the mood swings were like watching someone who was bipolar. She is not bipolar. She was hearing voices on Sunday. Nothing made sense. Kind of, but looking back now (knowing what I know), there were pieces of the puzzle missing and no one questioned.
While waiting to transfer her to the admitting hospital, the ER ran routine drug screen, as expected. They generally say "everything is negative". Well, they didn't say anything about results. They did grill me for answers to generalized questions regarding sleep, mood, diet, etc... 
I accidentally saw her lab results (which are usually in a sealed envelope - but this time it was not.) while looking for directions the ER usually sends with me. 
It showed all results were negative, except 1 uncommon street drug. I started thinking the only person, outside of family who saw her over those days, was her best friend. I had no idea either girl was experimenting with something so serious, or that they had access. 
I am pretty upset I wasn't informed. How can I help her in the future if I'm kept in the dark? This drug could have EASILY killed her - especially with combination of the medications she already takes. It did make her suicidal. The other girl's parents need to be notified as well. You can bet money I'll be calling them. What was my daughter influenced to take? ECSTASY!
HELP!!! What would you do? Help me think!
Was the hospital required by law to inform me???

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not by law no. It's called the confidentially law. They don't have to tell you a thing which is scary especially when it's your child. But since she is a minor, you can retrieve all of her medical records and find out what's going on that way. If it's bad enough, take her to a rehabilitation center where she can get some help. She is only 14 and experiencing with this stuff already, and it's sad to hear such a thing. I am 18 years old, and when I was 16, I was suicidal myself (I have never done drugs) but I was very depressed and I was cutting myself so bad that it almost killed me. But I got some help and after wards, I felt a lot better. Just try your very best to keep being such a great mother. I hope everything works out for you. And I wish the very best for your daughter.

? · Answer

There isn't a colossal age change among 14 and 17, however there's a gigantic adulthood change. It does not topic how mature you're on your age, or how immature he's for his. 14 and 17 are simply on distinctive planets. At 14 you haven't any grownup privileges, due to the fact that you're not anything greater than a youngster. At 17 you'll be able to force, paintings, pay taxes, marry and become a member of the navy with parental consent. In a couple of months he's going to be an grownup. You are a lot more a youngster than grownup and he's a lot more grownup than youngster. I are aware of it's difficult, however relationship in teenaged years are complicated. People difference and mature at distinctive premiums, making gigantic age companies tricky throughout this interval. Sometimes even relationship any one a 12 months older or more youthful is an excessive amount of correct now. Not due to the fact that of age gaps, however due to the fact that on the adulthood phases. The age of consent in such a lot places is sixteen. Him being 17 and also you being 14 creates a powerful battle. If any person discovered he was once even spanking your however, making out with you, or doing ANYTHING sexual it could be the tip for him. And individually i do not suppose that is reasonable in a courting . Relationships are all approximately being in a position to be intimate and almost a lover, that's why it is satisfactory so far in authorized a long time that approach you'll be able to achieve this. You do not desire to damage his existence over this. So my recommendation should you Truly love each and every different, wait a 12 months till you are sixteen. I imply if it is fairly going to determine it is going to while you are extra mature and authorized. I would possibly not soar to the realization that he is when you for intercourse, however he's with you for a courting. And with relationships come sexual emotions and stress to fill the ones needs. So it is going to occur (good out of your paragraph adding oral intercourse it's already going down) however it is simply now not authorized.

Neescousin · Answer

Sorry mom, but the confidentiality laws that are put in place to protect your daughter could be the same ones that could kill her. No, they don't have to inform you. However, you can have her medical records subpoenaed and take her to family court in order to force her into a drug treatment program or an institution.

Dread Head has a pet Zorro · Answer

um... BS... you can't find traces of ecstacy in your system cause ecstacy is NOT A DRUG!!!

shocking, eh???

ecstacy is a combonation of many drugs, and many house hold products...
they could have found MDMA, Speed, Ether, DXM, Heroine, Cocaine... anything like that... but there is no such thing as a drug named ecstacy that would show up in your system...  

does that make sense???

©@$h · Answer

yes you should. you was right it was her friend. never let her see her friend again end of.

Should I have been told by ER staff that my 14 yr old tested positive?

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