I have a 24 year old brother, who is completely dependent on the family, he has a disorder.. help?

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Plz help! We never got around to diagnosing his disorder here in the U.S. He went to special ed in school. His problems are: slow reader, its hard for him to write well, he's slow in math and all of that. He has no hand eye coordination, and we've been told his reaction time is not good enough to drive, therefor he has no transportation besides me and my parents. He works at a grocery store gets paid minimum wage, and he's only the courtesy clerk(bagger) He lives with my oldest brother, and he pays his part of the rent, which is low. and aroundthree times out of the week or so he visits us at the house. (we live close).
At this point, its come to my realization as well finally my mothers, that something needs to happen, because he cant depend on us forever. We need ways for him to have his own transportation, get more independent. idk. i hear there ar Dart buses for the special provided by the government. The two biggest factors are Money(although that shouldn't be one considering its my brother's well being) and the MAIN one is that, he is 24, no longer has a healthcare insurance (under my parents) and that he is a resident, not a citizen..
idk what to do.
I'd appreciate all the advice.
Please and thankyou!

Charles · Accepted Answer

We could spend all day trying to figure out what his diagnosis is - from Dependent Personality Disorder to Slight Mental Retardation - to Dyslexia...  What really matters is that he is functionally impaired and he needs major assistance.

Fortunately, there is a non-profit organization that provides a complete range of services - from learning to job skills to assistance with independent living.  The agency is called "Goodwill Industries International."  Under the who we serve section, they indicate that they provide services to immigrants.  You might want to contact them an obtain specific information on how to get your brother into their program.  Here is their  web address:

http://www.goodwill.org/goodwill-for-you/specialized-services

One last thing, be sure to ask them how you prove he is functionally impaired if he has never been diagnosed.

Best of luck to you and your brother!

Chloe · Answer

Poor depth perception (confusion slows reaction time) combined with dyslexia (slow reading and math skills because he's trying to re-arrange the letters/numbers in his head so they make sense) explain all the problems there.

As for what to do, as long as he isn't severely mentally handicapped (such as autism, retardation, etc.), then you can just look up bus times and buy a bus pass for him. You should also find affordable housing that doesn't have many ID/document requirements, such as renting a room nearby for awhile to see how he can manage on his own. After that, he might need to supplement his income with a second job to pay for something better.

Also, the Senate, I think, just recently passed a bill to make it easier for residents to become citizens (I'm subscribed to megavote), so you can look into that if you're interested. He could qualify for medicare/medicaid.

Anonymous · Answer

People with disability's have a hard time working a job and keeping up with others sometimes. It's also hard to adapt and they have problems with social interaction

Dependent Personality Disorder is might what it be..

I have a 24 year old brother, who is completely dependent on the family, he has a disorder.. help?

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