What would you do if you were this mother?

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You're in the process of divorcing the father of your 2 children, a boy 10 and a girl 5.  The divorce is taking a long time because you can't agree on anything.  The custody arrangement is that he has them every other weekend.  The little girl has done things that indicate sexual abuse, like barricading herself in her bed with all of her toys when she sleeps at the father's house and according to her therapist having 'sexualized' behaviors and the girl and her brother both say the father took a bath with her and the girl told you that what happened in the bathtub is a 'secret.'  And you strongly think she's being abused everytime she goes there but the judge won't change the arrangement because there's no proof.  You live in a state where the only evidence allowed would be if the girl disclosed herself what is going on - the mother or therapist can't say what they know.  It has to come from the child and the child won't directly tell anyone.   What would you do if you were the mother?

The girl either by acting it out in play therapy or by directly telling her, actually has told the therapist what is going on and the therapist even videotaped the girl's disclosures but CPS would not even look at it and for some reason I don't understand the judge who is deciding custody can't use it either.

Allison · Accepted Answer

I would try to make the girl answer or have the therapist give youth tape if there is a tape and If he or she won't give you the tape I would sew him and try to keep an eye on the girl or don't let any of the children see the dad fOr awhile

wishnuwelltoo · Answer

let the therapist get the evidence and proof for the judge. Therapist are trained to spot behavior. ......real or fake and this way the mother doesn't get a reputation for trying to keep her kids from their father. If the mom is coaching the kids......to manipulate the custody........then that will come out too. This child's behavior suggest more of a fear of abandonment then sexual abuse. The divorce causes children to fear being abandoned.

Deanna · Answer

Get the police involved. Call them the next time the kids go to his house. OR have your son call you whenever the father takes a bath with the daughter or wants to be alone with her. Have him call 911 and then you call 911 also. Get them over there, they will remove the children and he will not only go to jail but lose custody.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, so not fair!  First thing I wanted to say was, I would run with my babies.  Then you would have a whole other set of problems.  I have no faith in the "just us" system.

What would you do if you were this mother?

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