I'm a christian which is why I want to let go of grudges I'm holding against ppl that have bullied me..turn the other cheek and all that but I can'tš does anyone know how to let go of the anger that I have build uo and of the pain I still feel about it?
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There's a story about an older monk and a young monk who are walking along a muddy road in the rain. They come to a woman who asks for help getting across, so the older monk carries her across. The whole time she complains that he is letting her dress drag in the mud, and after he puts her down she continues to curse him. The two monks continue on without a word - finally the young monk says 'that woman was very rude, even after you helped her - you should have said something'. The older monk says 'why are you still carrying that woman? I put her down several miles ago.'
G C
A grudge is rooted in pride of self. In other words, 'how dare you do this to me.' type of thing. So if you can realize that you have done things wrong, not the same, but wrong, then you know there are people out there who have forgiven you and you can get strength in that and let it go.
Anonymous
I remember being hassled by some idiots in high school. The truth was though, I just didn't care and had a positive attitude that made people want to hang around with me.
So, in short, if you want to really get some pay-back, drop the negative feelings and be positive and enjoy your life, Your happiness and indifference to their animosity will bother them more than anything else you could ever do and the good things that you do with and for other people will make you feel good about who you are.
Linda
You need to meditate on the fact that they too, are God's children, there was a time when you were not a Christian and God's forgiveness of your sins will depend on your forgiveness of theirs.
You need to also remember that all sin is a rebellion against God and one is no worse than another.
Your anger is a desire for revenge. Consider what God has said. He will see to it that justice will be done in the long run. They may die for what they have done to you without regret.
Is that what you really want? As a Christian?
Would it not be better to pray that they too, find God before the end and repent of their actions.
Anonymous
Read Matthew 5