What's with all these people saying that all mixed people suffer from identity issues?

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The one anon said "most," not "all." Just because it doesn't apply to you doesn't mean it doesn't apply to many others.

I'm mixed, and, frankly, many mixed people have issues. I think what most people think about is the lack of acceptance a lot of mixed blacks experience from white people and from black people, but they don't realize that black people find reasons to hate all kinds of black people and white people generally are still racist--including towards mixed blacks.

I tend to think mixed blacks with white mothers and adopted blacks with white families are the most likely to be effed up or to not understand their "colored" side. The mixed kids with white mothers/black fathers often have broken families because the majority of black men are not into raising their children, and then the mother is stuck in white communities with a black child and everyone is judging her, talking about her behind her back and just otherwise making life hard for her. Of course this affects the child, because either the child can hear it or it causes the mother to treat the child differently or she'll treat the more "white-looking" child better. Even when this is not the case, if you're of color and you have a white mother, mothers are far more important in children's lives than fathers. If you're a mixed black female with a white mother, your mother doesn't know schitt about what you will or do deal with racially and she doesn't have important discussions with you about race because she can't. Fathers don't do this stuff even if they're around. And mixed black guys usually don't identify with blacks at all and never date black women; they never connect with their black side fully, unless they grow up around blacks. It makes other black people look down on him and make fun of him. And when your white mother takes you to predominantly white communities, you're barely around blacks and don't get any type of balance in learning about/understanding being white AND being black.

My mother is black and I'm female, so we have always talked about race and we identify with each other. I also have lived in black neighborhoods, white ones, attended mixed schools until college, etc, so I've always been around blacks AND whites. When I went off to college, I realized a lot of the things my mother told me about whites and race growing up were 100% right. Mixed blacks with white mothers don't learn this stuff until way later in life, if ever, because they don't have parents who break it down for them earlier and because they usually grow up around either 80% whites or 90% blacks but not both....Show more

Because most mixed people do have identity issues. Especially if they're half black....Show more

I agree. It's a clear case of mixism....Show more

It's just a tactic to shame interracial couples....Show more