I have an uncommon last name that no one ever spells correctly, and people even have a hard time pronouncing it when seeing it on paper. Why would a woman want to marry someone like that, and have her new last name constantly misspelled/mispronounced, and have to spell it every time?
Anonymous
A hard to spell last name is NOT a problem, if people cant spell thats their issue. Its not embarrassing to you or her. (Unless you are insecure, no offense...)
What IS unattractive/turn off, is:
1) a man with a fundamental lack of confidence (so you need to get confidence)
2) on the topic of names, if you had an unattractive last name like Hershberger, or Dung, etc (a name that sounded dirty, lame, weird etc) then that would be embarrassing. but not just a simply hard to spell or pronounce name.
some names are foreign, eastern european especially, we get it. its no big deal
Anonymous
Three cheers for the anonymous option here...
My maiden name is Ross. Doesn't get much easier than that, right? My husband's last name is one fine Italian hot mess - Sciacchitano. Hard to spell, hard for most people to pronounce, but I never batted an eye about taking it.
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I really don't know anyone, out of literally thousands, who have married a name. Most people, if not all, marry another person and that person can be named Mud or Mudd, but that's irrelevant.
linkus86
Because not everyone is as shallow as you believe them to be. Plus don't forget that now a days its common to keep your maiden name, or make things more complicated by hyphenating.
NoName
I didn't like my husband's last name, but I married him because I loved him more than I cared about his last name. Don't worry.