My to be mother in law very excidly presented me with a cake topper for my upcoming wedding. Being a professional cake decorator I m planning on making my own cake with very elegant designs in mind. She was so thrilled about this topper that she thought was perfect....but it s just so....tacky. It s literally salt and pepper shakers, a guy and a girl that don t have the right hair color, and are in tie dye hippie gear as we are both quite a bit hippy. They re cute but, I feel it would ruin my cake. Am a being terrible if I don t use them? I don t want to hurt her but I also don t want to have to downplay my cake to match a topper I don t like
Kelly2017-10-06T22:07:33Z
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Only that you feel how a cake topper will ruin anything. As a guest to a wedding, while I like to look at the cake because I own a bakery and can do it myself as well.. I've given exactly zero thoughts on the cake topper. The only one who will really care that they're not replicas of you is you.
My bakery, we've had some take toppers that were absolutely gawdy to us over the years, but they were meaningful to the person who they were for so that's all that matters.
Any type of rejecting you do of this cake topper will likely result in some hard feelings. While you might win that battle, it may cause more problems than it will solve.
As an alternative, I think you need to find a way to incorporate it into your design even if it's not on the actual top of the cake. If you're going to have a grooms cake, you can also use it for that or even somewhere totally different.
All I can say is, my daughter got married one week ago today, and I honestly do not remember if there even WAS a topper on her cake. Never looked, never saw it, didn't care (the cake itself looked wonderful and tasted delicious, btw). Everything else was great and I believe everyone had a great time. I would say just roll with it and put it on there, and if anyone says anything about it, you can tell them it was from your mother-in-law. Otherwise, some of the other ideas mentioned were pretty good. It's worth something to start out with good feelings all around, so do your best, and best wishes to you on your special day!
Well if you had been quick thinking you could of said Oh thanks so much but Groom and I have already decided on our cake and cake topper. Do you mind if I use these elsewhere? Now just tell her basically the same thing. I didn't know how to tell you but we already have our cake and cake topper planned. Put them by the card box. Or fill them with salt and pepper and use them at your place setting at the reception