Am I being a bridezilla?

Yes and no...

Only that you feel how a cake topper will ruin anything. As a guest to a wedding, while I like to look at the cake because I own a bakery and can do it myself as well.. I've given exactly zero thoughts on the cake topper. The only one who will really care that they're not replicas of you is you.

My bakery, we've had some take toppers that were absolutely gawdy to us over the years, but they were meaningful to the person who they were for so that's all that matters.

Any type of rejecting you do of this cake topper will likely result in some hard feelings. While you might win that battle, it may cause more problems than it will solve.

As an alternative, I think you need to find a way to incorporate it into your design even if it's not on the actual top of the cake. If you're going to have a grooms cake, you can also use it for that or even somewhere totally different.

All I can say is, my daughter got married one week ago today, and I honestly do not remember if there even WAS a topper on her cake. Never looked, never saw it, didn't care (the cake itself looked wonderful and tasted delicious, btw). Everything else was great and I believe everyone had a great time. I would say just roll with it and put it on there, and if anyone says anything about it, you can tell them it was from your mother-in-law. Otherwise, some of the other ideas mentioned were pretty good. It's worth something to start out with good feelings all around, so do your best, and best wishes to you on your special day!

Find some other way to use and display her gift to you. She is trying to set a good tone for your relationship going forward. You do not want to use them on Ycake but to just not have them at all is going to hurt her feelings. Perhaps make a table for the guest book and have the cake topper be part of the decorations for that table This way the gift is prominently displayed. If she asks tell her you thought that it would be just adorable there and do not tell her that you simply thought it would ruin your cake. that would be both rude and unwise on your part. Your MIL is trying to get off on the right foot. You sound like a bit of a snob so you need to find ways to get along with this woman Yes you are marrying her son but she will always be his mamma the better you get on with her the better it will be for you You do not want to get off on the wrong foot by hurting her feelings in totally rejecting her gift It could be a test to see how you are gonna be

Let me ask you a question--have you ever been to a single wedding that was altered in any way by the cake topper? I haven't. Have you ever heard of a family that didn't get along because one person felt they were slighted by the other? I have, lots of times. I think it's a case of pick your battles, and this hardly seems worth it. You can still make the cake you want.

Realistically, you're going to tell everyone in your everyday life about this incident, so nobody will think you're weird if they are on the cake.

Alternately, you can make a groom's cake and put the topper on that cake. And, you can make that cake more in line with the style of those toppers.

put it on the grooms cake.

You're not being a bridezilla.

Well if you had been quick thinking you could of said Oh thanks so much but Groom and I have already decided on our cake and cake topper. Do you mind if I use these elsewhere? Now just tell her basically the same thing. I didn't know how to tell you but we already have our cake and cake topper planned.

Put them by the card box. Or fill them with salt and pepper and use them at your place setting at the reception

Use it for your rehearsal or shower - she wants it seen and crooned over.

You don't have to use it for your wedding, but if you simply stash it, she will be crushed. Pick your battles, and think seriously about whether you might do something that would outshine the topper so it might make an appearance at the wedding. I guarantee you, NO ONE remembers what was on top of the cake, and this could buy you some serious good will for a very long time. It's like your math final in 8th grade- seems like the end of the world, and it's just not. I'd just bet you could whip up such a fabulous cake, very few people would remember what was on top- just make sure they can see it...

Yep, you are being a bridezilla.

Use them for your shower cake decorations, or on the groom's cake at the rehearsal if any.

Please the old bird is my recommendation. Not on the wedding cake of course but for the other events!