how true do you think the quote"nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission" is?

Well, of course that's true. Furthermore, anytime you accidentally feel inferior (it can creep up rather stealthily if you don't have solid ego legs beneath you) just pause and imagine the person who made you feel that way sitting on a toilet, groaning one out. Don't know about you but taking a crap is the great equalizer...and nobody makes it look more elegant or wealthy or lovely than anybody else. Really. It works. Even with snooty salespeople. You'll see, you'll laugh.

That people can do it doesn't mean they should and to respond to someone else who suggested that she probably allows someone to do that I will maintain to you that she did not invite their high handed attitude with her. Caring what loved ones think of you is not the same thing as allowing someone to make you feel bad about yourself because they seek to feel better about themselves.

Hi Kimmy,

Would Eleanor Roosevelt lie?

I know that, technically, that might be sort of true, but the reality is that the things that people do and/or say and whether or not they accept us can make us feel pretty crummy.

So, if that is the case, then who do we give permission to? Our family members? Our spouse? Our friends? Our church? Of course those people's reactions to us and attitudes toward us will effect how we feel about ourselves.

Shall we go about life ignoring the feedback we get from others? I'm sure some feel they can, but I just cannot.

I am very sensitive to other's reactions to me. Just the same, there are some things I believe and hold dear to me. There are behaviors that I have that are weird to some people, but I will not change to please them. Will what they think cause me to feel bad or inferior? Yes. Sometimes. Have I given them "permission"? Probably in some way I have.

I'd better go check my records. After having this monologue, I'm ready to revoke the permission.

Do not worry so much about what the current style may be. These things come and go. Maybe do some research into Reuben's models, I think Reubenesque is the term, not sure on the spelling. Anyway these were full figured women and considered very attractive and much sought after. To help your self esteem maybe try some positive affirmations and view pictures of models who have similar builds. You are perfect the way you are; accept yourself.

It's a true statement. If a person of lesser intellect or social standing tries to make us feel inferior, we have no trouble passing it off. But, if a person we believe is superior to us (assuming them to be more intelligent, stronger, better-looking, etc.) tries to make us feel inferior, we usually second-guess ourselves.

Why? Because we've already assumed them to be more intelligent, stronger, better-looking, etc. We've already set ourselves up for failure.

Absolutely true.

I like what badasslilnici said. lmao! So right! Here's a good quote to go with that from the movie "Married to the Mob".

"She thinks her **** don't stink!"

If someone thinks they are superior, then they are a fool.

I grew up with some money and a well to do family, they always told me that I was no better than a bum on the street.

U are damn right. I never ever thought bout this at that way. I think quote is very good and true.

I find it based in my personal experience that the only people who can make me feel bad were people I gave that power to.

It's extremely true. It's amazing how much our own attitudes about ourselves affect us. We meet arrogant and condescending people everyday, but it's up to each individual how much another person's obnoxious and over-the-top pride will affect him or her.

Very. What's with this? Someone else asked about this earlier.