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Should I tell my friends the truth about the man I'm in love with before he visits?
I have a friend coming to visit me next month. I met him online 8 years ago, and about a year ago things turned romantic/sexual. We have never met. Technically we're not together, but we are in love with each other and intend to be together when I graduate from college (May), we just don't want to commit while we live so far away. Anyway, I basically lied to all of my friends about how I met him. They think we went to high school together and he just happens to live halfway across the country. Is it pointless to lie about how I met him in this day and age?
Sometimes I worry that making up a fake story is really silly, and that we will probably get the story messed up when he actually comes here anyway. Also, I wonder if we're going to have to lie forever if things do work out and we end up living together.
Anyway, what would you do in this situation?
3 Answers
- 2 decades agoFavorite Answer
*sigh* I so understand the stigma of "meeting online." But look at it from this point of view. What if you two end up together? Friends will always want to hear stories of you guys meeting. If you had kids, they would want to know stories. I think you just have to bite the bullet and admit to your friends. I mean seriously.......there are amazing people on line! We aren't all a creepy bunch. *wink* Be proud of him and confident and your friends aren't going to think twice about it!! I wish you two the best of luck. Its so cool to hear you've stayed in touch this long! Wonderful!
- bigbadwolfe_2Lv 52 decades ago
Thats completely a personal choice & up to you and him to decide.
Frankly, it's really none of your friends business HOW you met - they're either gonna like him or not regardless of how you met & as friends, they should trust your choice/decision.
However... It could turn problematic if he's got no idea this is what you told them . He needs know about it so he can play the game of being the high school buddy, or you need to tell them the truth so you don't get caught in a string of lies.
If their your friends, then they'll still be your friends - they shouldn't judge you on how you met. As you said, things have changed A LOT over the years regarding the idea of online dating. You could just explain to them that at first you were embarrassed, but now you aren't... and since he'll be around, you thought it was time they knew the truth.
- 2 decades ago
Zuckermaeuschen
It is so much more simpler, easier, such a relief (befreiender) for yourself, if you tell the truth. And how embarrassing if your friend unintentionally gives you away?
Nicht nur jeden Wunsch - sondern auch jede Luege, wenn sie ausgesprochen wird, bekommt sofort Kleinen! (Volksmund)
Not only each wish - but also every lie, for as soon as you speak, they immediately bear kids (Proverb)
Source(s): Mein Lebenserfahrung als (ehemaliger) Luegner! My life's experiance as (ex-)lier!
