We just adopted a boy after seven birth children. How do we make sure he grows up feeling secure in our love?

With 7 kids already, I think it would be presumptuous for any one here to tell you how to be a good mother. You're obviously the one with the experience, and I'm sure the skills and instincts which have served you so well so far will continue to keep you ahead of the game. Just be yourself.

Always involve him in family activities and treat him the way you would treat your birth children. Also, put up lots of pictures of him with his adopted parents and with his siblings. If you make decorations with family members names, make him his own personal one too. Hang a big family portrait of him(at his present age) and the family where everyone can see. This will give him a sense of bieng included from the very start.

I was adopted at birth but grew up as an only child. I think I always felt like my adopted mother was my mom, even though I knew I was adopted. You can't control how they feel about themselves. I would just make every effort to make him feel loved and secure. Make sure he knows that he was chosen by you because he is special to you..and that his birth mother loved him enough to give him a chance at life, that he is loved very much.

How old is the child? If he is old enough that he knows, and will remember that he is adopted, make sure you tell him you adopted him because you love him , and wanted him to be yours. As long as you treat him as your own, and don't leave him out of family events, he should be just fine.

You just have to treat him like a birth child of your own, make him feel comfatable in the family like the family is his coz they are. Dont make him any different because he is adopted.

Eight Children??? As Groucho said" Jesus lady, I like a cigar, but I take it out of my mouth once in a while!!"

Love him the same as you love your own. Even if someday he finds out he's adopted, tell him he is part of your heart and family.

Treat him the same as you would your natural children

Making sure your children and this child share stuff togther. Like playing a game togther.

treat him the same as urs and if u can most of the times b a little bit on his side .

Just everybody love him and each other and all should be well