OK so does the big o really matter??

You are so RIGHT! Men just don't get it (and some women) I am the same way. Just being with the man I love and knowing what we mean to each other is all I need. I don't have to or**sm to know that we are right for each other and that we love each other. Just being in his arms and knowing that he will be there when I wake in the morning and there when I close my eyes at night. I always know that he will hold my hand when I need him and tell me the truth when I don't want to hear it. Men are not as accepting to the emotions that accompany love, and so they don't associate the feelings that we do with it, to them the achievment of and or**sm is the culmination of satisfaction. That is what they feel is our (women) way of saying "That was amazing and this is the reason that I love you ...."

I'm a woman and I would say it does matter but it's different for each induvidual woman.So you and me differ in that sense.If your not that exicited about but stil enjoyed yourself fine.But if you want to show him,there's two things i would suggest fake it or try to reach the big o.The first one isn't good if you go to the extreme but the latter you could.Talk to your partner about it,tell him what you like,ask him what he likes and how you could work with this.Not meaning to be too blunt,work longer on foreplay,try different positions.As well as try finding out what you like by yourself,how do you know what will turn you on if you don't try,right? Good luck

Depends on what kind of women you are. In your case, i can conclude, it doesnt really matter. Your more of a romantic person ...

The guys deserve to know this when they are not performin well but that doesnt mean you pressurize him a lot; just slip out a hint of his inabillity but never say it right on the face ... our 'manliness' is questioned

I the same way I don't care if I don't get mine every time I just like the fact of being together But I also get that look when I tell him its okay Just because i didn't get mine doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it just as much.

The reason it does not matter to you is because you have yet to get used to them, trust me you not only will want one every time, but you need one, try putting on a porn and getting it on with yourself at first it is easier for you to give yourself an orgasm than it is to get one, once you get used to your body and know what feels good you should be able to readily receive them from your boyfriend, if not he is not doing his job. I have to have one every single time, sometimes my boyfriend is not around when I need one and I will give myself one, hey not only does it feel sooo good but it also relieves all of your tension, so give yourself a try, I bet you will like it.

There have been times when my hubby has gotten HIS and I havent and sometimes that just fine with me cuz I know I made him happy so that makes me happy. But thankfully my hubby the majority of the time does make sure I get mine first! BUT when we have quickies its ok if I dont. Its my job as his wife to make him fully content!

I agree with you 100%. The intimacy is the most important!!! But, men will NEVER understand it. I would love to just be close to my husband, for an hour, than to have sex and get off. (besides, you can always do that yourself, later)

I dnt get off either but the truth is i really jus lookforward to the snuggling. Its heaven wen ure in their arms especially wen u had a bad day.

My gf and I are honest and open with each other, if for whatever reason she doesn't get hers and it's OK, I believe her. If it's not OK, she won't let me stop. Sometimes it's about her (I don't get off), and sometimes it's about me. Usually we both get off. Whichever it is, we have an intimate experience.

Some guys have this ego thing, if he doesn't curl your toes every time he feels inadequate