How do you know what you've done to disappoint friends if they don't tell you?

Been on each end of this just once in my life. The time I was the disappointer, I set a friend up in a relationship with a mutual friend, then when friend A told me he thought it was a dreadful mistake, I told friend B, and she talked it through with him. He worked out that I'd told her, and spent his time sniping and bitching at me until their relationship fell apart of its own accord. Lesson that could be drawn from this? Communication sucks! lol

When someone disappointed me...I don't know, call it a mafioso streak if you like, I just woke up one morning and shrugged and I didn't need them in my life anymore. In fact, it was suddenly important that he not be in my life, and he wasn't.

He's since made several attempts to get my friendship back, and I freely admit it's a weakness and a darkness in myself that the reason I don't take him back into my circle is some relation of jealousy and anger at his success and contempt for his success despite him being contrary to everything I hold dear...none of which he knows, would understand or is fair. Ultimately, there's nothing he's technically done wrong, but I'll never take him back. Not exactly swept under the carpet, just swept out of the way for a happier life. I sleep well, don't feel I owe him any explanation or warning (though that could be because I know he'd be technically "right" to be annoyed at me if I explained it). Don't care that things won't improve - people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I've decided that he was in mine for a season, not a lifetime, and that's all there is to it.

Wow, what a conundrum you have!

People are imperfect creatures. Some are more imperfect than others. Each have different needs and idiosyncrasies. You have to decide on a case-by-case basis what that particular friend needs and deserves. Some obviously deserve more than others.

Maybe you are mistaken and there was no disappointment, just misunderstanding?

I hope you figure it out!

:P

You need to sit down and put it in a letter,every possible thing you can conceive of to ask or say, put a stamp on it, when they get it, If they are worth their salt it will be read,The great thing is you cant argue with a letter,and just maybe problem solved if not you tried,and thats all any of us can do!Good weekend to ya doll JuJu

friend true friends need to up front with each other.That way you will always know with 100% accuracy what will disappoint them and them you.The best relationships are based on honesty and trust.People can forgive and get past something but they might hold onto it deep down forever.Saying I'm sorry and forgive me is a start in the right direction.If you can't get them on the phone send them a letter.

If you think you've done something to disappoint or alienate your friends, and they haven't told you what it is, there's a chance you might be misconstruing what is going on. You should say, "Yo, is there anything up? If so, tell me what it is."

Except for the extremely passive-agressive, folks tend to let you know when they're p!ssed.

I have experienced this several times. I always wanted to have a good line of communication with one now ex-friend, but I came to realize he was being too needy and clingy and was weighing me down. I tried to explain to him that I needed my personal space and that he should learn to find other friends but he wouldn't heed my requests. He actually got worse and eventually I had to cut off our friendship. I warned him that I would do that and he wouldn't change his ways. It is unfortunate but he disappointed me in that he refused to expand his circle of friends and tried to restrict mine and didn't respect my need for personal space and friends BESIDES him.

i does not say something approximately that subject. She has to do what she has to do. That replaced right into a determination she had to make for herself. If it replaced right into a extreme infraction, then confident i might tell them, otherwise i might shop it to myself. life is stuffed with disappointments. pals will disappoint you specifically circumstances. you ought to evaluate the situations surrounding the frustration earlier you say something approximately it. each so often it in simple terms can not somewhat be prevented. area of being a chum is to be know-how.

If you sense that you have disappointed a friend, let them know that you sense that you may have disappointed them and that you would not want to disappoint them. Ask them to let you know what it was that disappointed you and then ask them if they can find it in their heart to forgive you. And lastly, promise (if you can) to never do that again.

Maybe they just don't like you anymore? And if they don't have the balls to say what you did wrong to your face, then they're not worth being friends with.

I am sorry i just stepped out for a minute! It will never happen again()