My six year old sons dad isn't in his life.I've made excuses for his dad.When do I tell him the truth?

In all honesty, I lived with a husband and a father to my children that didn't care and was there just about as much as what it sounds as though your six year old son is going through. It isn't worth losing your mind over. Sit down and tell him the truth. Tell him you believe how much his dad loves him it's just that as a parent and a father he falls short. You are unsure of the answers as to why. Maybe someday when he is grown he can find the answers to those questions more easily than you can. But let him know that no matter what the reasons are, it has nothing to do with him personally, it has everything to do with the man that is fully grown and maybe he had the same kind of dad, one doesn't know. Just make sure that he knows he is loved if not enough by his father then enough from you to amount to more than what his dad could ever give. Let him know that sometimes in life it takes more than what someone can give to be a real dad, and that his dad just wasn't ready.

If you continue to make excuses your son will begin to hate you for it, when he comes to realize on his own that he does not have a father. Try explaining to him the best way that you can what happened. That its easy for a man to produce a child. But some people arnt meant to be parents. Because ,either they are selfish, or immature, or just not good people. Tell him that at the time you believed that he was, but that he decieved you,and you didnt realize until after your son was born that his father wasnt who he seemed to be. Or, he may understand if you just said that God wanted you to be the mother of this child, for some reasons you dont know. Sometimes the thought of raising a child scares the hell out of people. they begin to question their own purpose, and whether or not they could handle parenting. Unfortunatly, after the child is already conceived is alittle late to be asking these questions. Just tell him the truth as you know it. And dont lie to him about his father, or stand up for him. Let your son be the judge, but help him understand his judgements. Never , talk bad about the boys father if you can help it. Even though he doesnt know him, he will feel bad because he thinks that being a part of him, that is also how you think of him.

You should never have started making excuses for your son's father in the first place. You need to start telling your son the truth straightaway, & not just the truth about his father, but also the truth about why you've been making excuses all this time. Believe me, your son might only be 6 years old, but even children can be quite intuitive. I'm sure your son realises what's going on deep inside, even if he's never outrightly asked you about it. So do both him & yourself a favour & sit him down quietly & explain the situation, precisely, in simple terms. Then, if ever he asks questions, always be sure to answer them as simply and truthfully as you can. Believe me, your son will thank you for it & you'll be glad you took this turn.

The sooner the better. Keeping a lie going is not the best when the truth really comes out. Your son just may turn on you later. Tell him the whole truth. His father is an irresponsible man and your son should know that.

Your son isn't stupid. He knows that his dad doesn't care. You need to explain that his dad has made a choice, but emphasize that it is because he is a selfish man, not because your son did anything wrong. Explain to your son that it's his father's loss not to have him in his life because he is the greatest person ever and make him feel special. By not explaining it, your son is going to personalize it and will feel like he has done something wrong.

How about telling the truth?

The truth being that some people cannot accept the responsibility that comes with being a parent. And they avoid it by ignoring their children.

But, it isn't personal (it really isn't), it's a character trait/flaw in the parent, and just the way some people are.

And leave it at that.

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now's a good time. just let him know that his father went away and won't come back. but also let him know that you love him very much, and that you'll never leave him no matter what. he's gotta know that you'll always be there for him.