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My nephew just turned 18.He goes to church every week because he loves God and wants to go.A little over a year ago he lost his mom(my sister)to suicide.He then moved in with his grandma and grandpa(on his dads side) and today his Grandma died in the home from cancer. He has always had to live with his parents alcoholism and drug abuse. He is a good boy, but very closed off from the world. Never had a girlfriend; never had any close friends; got fired from his first job because his is so shy and standoffish.He has had counseling through his church, and is dealing with things the best he can. He accomplished receiving a black belt in karate and graduating highschool which is great. He hasn't given up on anything. But when will all of this stop getting thrown on him so that maybe for once in his life he can find happiness?

Please no funny answers. He is only 6 and this is for school. Hawaiian name would be fantastic also.

My only sibling killed herself by lying in front of a train almost 2 years ago.She was a alcoholic and a drug abuser,but no one thought she was this bad.She was married with two children.I had not spoken to her in about 6 months due to a petty argument.Not speaking was due to my inability to accept the way she spoke to me and my parents. I sent her a letter telling her I loved her,but couldn't continue to listen to her hateful words anymore.My son heard her rantings on the answering machine and it scared him.I just couldn't deal with it being that way anymore.A few months later, she killed herself.No note,nothing.Just gone.I feel so selfish.I feel if I had not turned my back on her- she might still be here today.I know the whole thing is not entirely my fault, but I also accept my role in her death.I have been able to continue to live my life,(for the love of my son),but still feel so much guilt inside. Will this ever go away? Will I ever stop wondering WHY? Will I ever be happy again?

Soccer;basketball or karate? And why?

Every year since 1st grade a child I know has been "placed" into the next grade instead of passing. The student is far behind and won't even try anymore because of frustration.He does get help at home, but still can't catch on to even the basics. He is now in 9th grade and retention by the parent was requested, but the school said no. What is the reason the school will not hold him back a year so maybe he can catch up?

I have a so called friend who shut me out completely when she hooked up with a new guy.They ended up getting married without telling me,or anyone. She is now getting ready to give birth (I hear) to his child and he left her for another girl.It's been well over a year since we've spoken. If she calls now, what would you do?

The day I had my son his dad came to the hospital, said good job and left.He changed his mind about wanting to be a dad.I don't ask for child support,nor do I want it.My son calls his cell and leaves messeges for him to call back,and he never does.Christmas, birthdays, Fathers Day - never does he return my sons calls or send a card.When do I quit making excuses for a dad who doesn't care? I don't want to be the cause of more pain for my only son.