my mom and i had falling out...?

You need to sit down and tell your mom about what you observed when it comes to the treatment of your kids v/s your nephew. Tell her how you feel about it and tell her that won't be permitted that you love her and want her to have a relationship with your but won't allow them to be subjected to such treatment. If she starts acting a fool lead your children away from her put them someones good hands for the moment and go deal with her. Put it in her face. Tell her at the time she is doing it. I'm sure others in your family will agree with you if they have any brains.

First of all...I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother being so ill. If you have no choice but to bring the girls with you, and you notice your mom acting up towards them...if it's anyplace other than her house, say "Mom, this is not the time or place for this and walk away." She should be stunned by the fact that you calmly stood up to her in public and stop whatever she was doing. If it is at her house, say, "I'm sorry, but I cannot subject my girls to such behavior...they deserve better." and get up and leave. While there, do not stay at her house, stay at a hotel or with a friend or relative...if she asks you why you won't stay with her...be honest and tell her why. Good luck.

You can't allow her to treat your children like this anymore. You need to discuss/argue with her while your children are not around. She needs to be told and understand that if she can't accept your daughters, than she don't accept you!! Plain and simple! Cut off all ties with her until she can grow up. You as a mother must protect them from such a closed minded woman. It's bad enough in this world dealing with strangers, let alone family. She does not deserve to know such precious children! I would tell her that too!

It depends on your history...if you have already talked to her about this and her behavior has not changed then it is something that she is going to have to deal with on her own. But those types of feelings are usually a reaction to a supressed feeling of something else from a childhood or a notion placed in her sub-conscience from before. So if you feel you can help her then do so without stressing you or you kids out about it. The bible says that "God is not partial" so if he accepts us all not matter what then she has to rethink her behavior and beliefs. But be ready to accept her reaction because some people in this world never and have not intention of change.

Protect your brood. Ask her to be at the least civil. Remind her she is their grandma. If it doesn't work, she won't have someone visiting her in the hospital when she gets like your grandma.

Well if your own mother trys to do any thing to your girls contact the police ( if it is violent) and well treat them like they would treat you