What do you think makes people ungrateful ? What separates the grateful from the ungrateful ?

simple, their attitudes.

Selfishness. They simply don't see what the other person has done for them.

I know someone like that, my mother-in-law. When she was going for radiation and chemo treatments for a rare form of cancer, I took care of her, washed her clothes, changed her bed (often, if you've ever had chemo you know how sick you get), drove her one hour each way every day for 6 weeks to her treatments, argued with the doctors, researched the cancer so I'd be knowledgeable, bought her countless medications and ointments.

After all was said and done, and she was cured, her brother sent me a lovely note and a bit of money (not much, it was just a gesture), thanking me for all my help. When she saw who it was from, she snatched it out of my hand, read the note, saw the check, and gasped "why in the world did he send this to YOU of all people? He knows I need money, he should have sent this to my family".

It still hurts to remember that, but I did what Christians are supposed to do. I signed over the check to her, wrote her brother a nice thank you, and turned the other cheek.

UNGRATEFULNESS is the fear (conscious or unconscious) of owing someone else. This fear (in this particular sense) comes from selfishness -- the deep-down knowledge that you will never be able to do for them what they did for you.

So, the idea of acknowledging the good done for you becomes threatning. Therefore you deny or minimize it (whether explicitly or not).

For the ungrateful person the idea of showing GRATITUDE (i.e. acknowledging that someone did for them what they would never do for that person if their positions were reversed) places them face to face with their own selfishness.

This, of course, is untolerable even for a selfish person.

P.S: That's why you will never find a generous person who is ungrateful. Generous people have no fear of gratitude.

what seperate that kind of people is that they don't like what they have. Gratful are the people that love for what they got. also when they consider themselves lucky for what they have.