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About a year ago, my little girl (5 at the time) told me that my 14 year old little brother tried to do some inappropriate things with her. She said that he had his zipper down and something was sticking out. He said "It's just my finger, just lick it." She left the room right away, but didn't tell me about the incident until the next time she saw him(after he left}. He lives in Panama and only comes to the states a few times a year. I have purposely avoided him, but I have talked to him on the phone and told him that I knew what he had done. Well, my daughter seems to be ok, I took her to a counsler just in case. What I need to know is should I tell my Dad? It would break his heart, he loves his granddaughter and son very much. He's been pushing me to talk and see my brother , and I have run out of excuses. This has really caused my immediate family to be distant from the rest of the family, and I miss them alot. I just don't know what to do. Please give any advise you can. Thanks.

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago
    Favorite Answer

    You've got to protect your child.

    Since your brother is so young, he can still benefit from counseling, so tell your Dad. It would break his heart more if your brother got thrown in prison 10 years from now when he molests another kid.

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    Pleas listen..you will be doing your brother a great disservice if you do not tell your dad. He may have been abused by someone and he is imitating the actions or he does have a problem and other little girls are at risk. He needs help and your dad sems to be a great father and will seek the help he needs to stop being sexually inappropriate. There are more people at risk than you think. Your brother will get the help he needs at an early age and with love and prayer, he will not become a sexual predator. Don't wait, make the call. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Source(s): my experience
  • 2 decades ago

    Never ever let her be alone with him. he did it once he will try again. My friends daughter (age 5) was not only coerced into doing the same thing with a family member age 15, she was also fingered while the kid jacked off. She is 13 now doesn't remember the incident, but she is terrified of the man now age 23. The family didn't want to make a "big deal" out of it and cause shame to the family, so he continued doing this to all his younger cousins and sister, until one of the girls ended up pregnant. then they had to deal with it. talk with your dad, it isn't going to get any better, it will just continue to get worse.

  • 2 decades ago

    YES! TELL HIM. He has a need and right to know.

    Make sure that perv knows that you know, and the next time it happens he will get a home done sex change operation!

    also, you can not avoid him forever, unless he ends up in jail or dead, (no I'm not saying to kill him). You will have to deal with him being around you sooner or later.

    If ever he is in the same building as your daughter, never leave the two alone, even for a second.

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  • Kim
    Lv 5
    2 decades ago

    I am so sorry that your daughter was even put in that situation, but you have to tell your Dad. Your brother has to be disciplined, maybe even counseled. You should not alienate yourself from your family because of what occurred. You need them more now than ever. In addition, it is important that your brother get the help he needs to prevent him from trying that again with someone else. As a family, all parties involved can get the help they need.

  • 2 decades ago

    I would tell your dad right away. He needs to know. How would you feel if your brother had the chance to do this to some other girl? Your brother needs to seek immediate help, this is a HUGE problem. It will hurt your dad, but it would hurt him a whole lot more if he actually did something more with another little girl.

  • Nancy
    Lv 5
    2 decades ago

    In my opinion, you should tell your Dad. Yes, it will upset him.. but that is too bad. It would be worse if nothing was done and something worse happened. Explain to him that you love him and you don't want to upset him, but you daughter MUST come first. Explain to him what your brother did and that you refuse to have your brother near your daughter again because you don't feel you can trust him. If this causes problems in the family, you will have to accept that, because.. as I said.. your daughter MUST come first. If your father knows.. perhaps he can deal with your brother and straighten him out before he gets into serious trouble. I hope so. Good luck and you are in my prayers.

  • 2 decades ago

    That is a shame... i hate sickos like that. You should tell your father so your brother could learn a lesson. Don't ever leave your daughter alone with him, and never doubt what your daughter says. If that would happen to my daughter, her dad will probably do the unthinkable. I have met sick people like that and i swear i hate them. How could a grown person do that to an innocent child who doesn't know anything about that? Did you confron tyour brother? Think about your daughter first.

  • 2 decades ago

    Talk to your dad. Tell him that your daughter is ok and you are willing to still see your brother but feel he needs counseling. You are lucky everything was ok this time - don't allow it to happen again. You can not always protect your daughter but this time you can so do it to the best of your ability.

    Good luck.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    2 decades ago

    talk to your dad and tell him what you were told. the three of yall should have a family meeting and see what can be done if your brother denie it then you will at least know you told your father and keep your child away from your brother . he will do it again and i hope the next kid see that he is put where he belong

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    Unless you want your brother in prison and have him being asked the same thing he did to your daughter, I would think you need to tell your dad, and get him some serious help as quickly as possible.

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