How do you get your boyfriend to grow up and quit drinking so much?

time, my guess is he is asking his friends how he can get you to stop wanting him to grow up and stop drinking. Just opt out when he wants to party and he'll see that the sober him is the one you want. Don't give him ultimatum's, just use positive reinforcement when he isn't drunk or partying or whatever he does that bothers you. But, if he's dangerous, (i.e. violent, driving drunk, etc.) really evaluate the situation for your own safety. In time my guess is like most people, it wears old and he'll grow up.

you can't make a man stop drinking! i've been in that relationship before and nothing you say or do will ever make him stop he is going to do what he wants to do and that's all there is to it. my ex wouldn't even stop after his daughter was born or for that matter while she was being born! if you don't like him drinking so much tell him once that you are going to leave and find someone better that him if he doesn't stop drinking. if he doesn't want to quit then he doesn't really care about you or your feelings and you can do so much better than that!

Hi There in essence you can't do anything. There is obviously something in your b/f's life that he cannot deal with and has to use the alcohol to cope. You could suggest a alcohol therapist or AA meetings in your town but hey he needs to do this for himself and not to get you off his back. I think once he gets the alcohol in perspective he will start to naturally mature the alcohol is suppressing his emotional growth. I am a therapist in the UK with young people just like your B/F Lots of luck for the future Dirky.

you cant be with someone thinking you are gonna change him. if you think this you are in for a really bad fall. he will grow up when he feels it is time for him to do so, the more you tell him to or nag the childish he will get, n drinking same issue, don't wast your time and youth on waiting for someone to catch up to you. if you decide to go your own way and he really loves you and feels you are worth this change he will change. after all you are his woman not his mother you do not need the added stress. good luck

You just need to tell him that he has a problem with drinking, and if he admits it then get help it he denies it then move on because that mean that he will not quit drinking. Remember there is always someone better out there. DEE DEE DEE!!!

You can't. Only he can change himself. You can either accept that he drinks,and accept the possible consequences to your relationship should you stay together/ get married... or you can find someone else who doesn't drink so much. You've got to ask yourself: "Am I better off with him, or without him?"

YOU NEVER WILL. CAN'T CHANGE A MAN LADIES. STOP THINKING THAT YOU'RE SO HOT AND SEXY THAT YOU CAN CHANGE ANY MAN. LOOK AT KOBE BRYANT, AND ALL THE OTHER CELEBRITES THAT WERE CUAGHT SLIPPING WHEN THEY ARE ALREADY MARRIED. MOVE ON TO ANOTHER GUY WITHOUT THOSE PROBLEMS. Did you have an alcoholic family member in your household? That could be the reason you can't leave him.

Limit your reltionship with him until he cleans up his act. If it matters to him then he will grow-up or get help. If he continues. . . maybe you need to grow up move on with your own life. I know it sounds kind of tough...but if he is ready and really cares he'll pull it together.

Back off and protect yourself.

I waited 10 years and he is still an idiot even though he stopped drinking.

Just do not put up with it. You really don't want HIM.

Hold onto your self esteem while you still have it.

Been there, tried that. You can't, he has to grow up on his own. So you have to decide what you're putting up with, and if it's worth it.

I dumped him, and the one after him is the one.