My brother-in-law is upset at my husband b/c he didn't tell him about their sister being pregnant...?

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My mother in law told us and asked not to say anything to my brother in law.  My sister-in-law is pregnant with twins and she's over 40, from a married 23 yr.old guy.  She already has 3 older kids that she's very irresponsible with.  I don't know why my mother in law didn't want him to find out, but she asked us not to say anything.  Now he's upset cause my husband didn't tell him anything and he heard it from a cousin, whom my mother in law told.  Is he right to be upset at my husband?  We were just respencting my mother in law's wishes, and here she is telling half the world anyway.  Why would she put us in the spot like that?  That's why I didn't want to be involved in any of this to begin with.

foolnomore2games · Accepted Answer

Hopefully once the initial shock wears off he will realize that you guys were just trying to respect their mom. You are right she should have never put you in that position. But he can not hold it against him forever.
Right now he is probably feeling hurt and betrayed especially if they have a close relationship. But its not the end of the world and hopefully he will see that soon!

SweetSatinDoll47 · Answer

Your brother-in-law has absolutely NO reason to be upset with your husband for not saying anything.  Not because your mother-in-law mentioned not to tell him, but because your sis-in-law is a grown woman and if she wants to keep her life in turmoil by acting irresponsibly, then that's a decision she made, and has to live with.  Besides, with your mother-in-law telling everyone, he would find out anyway, which he did.

Skylar · Answer

Your Brother-n-law has no right 
Tell your husband to blame it on his mother and sister that keeps you out of trouble

dragonflygirl · Answer

it's up to the sister to tell everyone she's pregnant
no anybody else's
and certainly not up to the mother either
tell your brother in law to get a life

spudric13 · Answer

I think everyone should be upset with the sister, not your husband. Doesn't she know what birth control is? She's 40? Is it possible for someone that old to not know about condoms? The pill? Anything? Overall, hubby's brother shouldn't be mad at your hubby. It's not his fault. He should be mad at his mum and sis.

? · Answer

your mother in law needs a life and stay out of her grown daughter business she is trouble and not a good mother we are suppose to be there for our kids not go around gossiping about them you were right you and your husband should not have told him he would find out who she is having a baby for is her concern not the whole town. mother in law needs to clean out her closet i bet she has skeleton in there

JeNe · Answer

( sounds like my family) ...lol... no seriously... it's a mess 
you could say your sorry and that you wanted to respect the mother in laws wishes  and frankly you didn't think it was any of your business and you wanted to avoid any further involvment, you knew he was going to find out but you didn't think you should be the one to tell him.

KAI · Answer

I don't that's right.You and your husband were respecting your mother-in-law's wishes. He should talk it out with his mother and sister and stop holding your husband accountable for their mother's wishes to not tell him.

Anonymous · Answer

So your brother iin law is upset at you for something your mother did?
Its not your fault! Let it go!

Anonymous · Answer

Your hubby's brother will have to get over it. If his mother told him not to say and thing he was doing what he was asked not too do.
I wouldn't worry about it. you guys haven't done anything wrong. it will blow over.
your family sounds as nutty as mine. something always going on

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