Money and love?

tell him if he wants to keep your money that is fine, but he will have to use it to pay for your services that you are no longer giving away, (he will come around in a few days).

Why is someone else withholding your own money from you? What do you mean you are "not allowed" to use your own credit or debit cards? Aren't you an adult? Don't they belong to YOU? Since when do you need permission to use something that is yours?

Put a stop to this nonsense right now. Get a P.O. Box and have your part time job's check go there. If he says a word, make it clear you work and earn that money and will handle it as you see fit. He can handle his as he sees fit. Just make sure between the two of you that household bills are being met...

...but above all that, he needs to deal with his control issues...seek couples counseling or tell him straight that his behavior isn't working for you and something's got to change...

...or maybe it's time for you to move on?

He has waaaaaay too much control. You are working two jobs, and you can't see your own money. Question. Does he work two jobs? Does he even work one? Does he spend money? If he does, then you gotta set him straight because not only is that a double standard, but that is borderline slavery, to me anyway. Of course there should be a mutual agreement with money matters, but I don't see one. You have to ask permission to have some of the money you busted your @$$ for? That's some bull$#!+. Does he ask for money? Does he show you what is going on with the money? Those are some questions you need to ask yourself. Seriously.

P.S. You are not a child. Like they said, you are an adult, so stop letting your husband treat you like one.

Honey, you need some help. Marriage is not about one person controlling the other. It's an equal partnership. If he won't agree to joint marital counselling, get some counselling for yourself. While divorce is a harsh choice, there are times that it is the only one. Ask yourself, after counselling, if this is really the way you want to spend the rest of your life? If it is, then you have to stop complaining and just live with your choice. If it's not, either the two of you have to get some help and things have to change, or you have to get out of this mess. Best of luck to you.

Tell him you are going to take your two jobs and leave. You deserve something from working so hard. OR have the part time job hand you the check and you can cash it. Good luck.

you guys need to sit down, set a budget and work together in what you can and cannot spend....he shouldn't be as controlling, but you also shouldn't have just grabbed the money without telling him...you need to find a common ground...good luck, i have a friend who's husband controls all the money and doesn't let her spend anything...there relationship is suffering and i fear they are not gonna make it much longer...

Well he shouldn't have control over all your money but you do sound like your not responsible enough to handle it. If money needs to be set aside for taxes then you should not be taking any of it. How can you shut him up ? Be more responsible with money. It doesn't grow on trees.

i don't know the whole situation so it's hard to say. if he's just controlling you for the heck of it , I'd say kiss off,. on the other hand if you're a poor money manager and spend money that should go on the bills first then I guess you'd better suck it up and aplogize. give more details. surely you don't let him control you like that for no good reason!

Tell him it's your fvcking money and unless he shuts up and lets you have want you want and need then you'll quit the second job and he can get another one to make up for it. Your husband is jerk and you're letting him run your life while you support the home. Bet that's not what you envisioned for a bright future.

Talk to your second employer and get them to pay the money into your bank account. job done!....your partner can't take your money(that you earned) anymore. I don't think you can do a lot about what has gone before....but preventing it again will make him see that you are not going to put up with his selfish ways. Go girl !!

wow that sucks, i would tell him that it is your money that u r working 4 and u should be able to take as much as you want. But u have to spend it wisely and remember all the bills and stuff like that. I think he is working u over on the money

GOOD LUCK