I have been married for 18 years, My husband gets falling down drunk atleast 2 times a week I don't love him

Possibly, you are just so hurt, angry, and fed up that you can't imagine actually liking a man. Many will suggest counseling, but, a drunk is a drunk, and won't change until and unless they want to change. You need to get away from him, at least temporarily. Not with a man OR woman. You need solitude to give you the chance to decide what's best for you.

You are more than likely disallusioned with men and with jsut cause. Have you any desire to save the marraige ? If not then time to move on.

The realtionshipwith the woman is probably a comfort and woudl say you are bi sexual. Where you want to be for the rest of your life is the issue you need to address and can only do this if you have space. You don't mention love in the other relationship.

Maybe a time with no one would give you a chance to stand back and see where you want to go in life.,

Why don't you just divorce this guy and take some time to sort out your feelings.

You really should not get into a relationship right away, you need to talk to someone about everything. Try some counseling.

After a year you should know more about yourself and how your feel towards men and women. Then go out and find your ideal mate.

Take a step back, leave the bastard and move on. Do what makes you happy but take some time to think about your life, and how you are feeling about it. Right now i bet its hard to rationalise anything.

I think you are just bi tell him you want a divorce your tired of his shyt!

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