Is it OK to take my daughter to her drug dealers house? I don't want her mother to go. She will go anway.?

Meet the dealer. If she gonna buy it anyways, thats the only way you can find out.

While you "know what it's about" and have a "been there, done that attitude" taking her there only encourages her to continue the expensive, not to mention illegal, habit.

Stop taking her. If she wants pot, let her get it on her own. I know you want to make sure she is safe, but you aren't doing that by taking her to the dealers. There will be no way that you can protect her if the cops show up, you'll only get in trouble yourself for taking her. It's called an accomplice. Do you think you will be able to help her if you both are in jail? Doubtful.

If her mother doesn't know what you two are up to, tell her. Keeping her in the dark will only make it worse when it comes out.

Then have a serious talk with your daughter. She is old enough that she should have a job, a car, and a place of her own. Many employers give pre-hire drug tests now, and even random ones after hiring. Talk to her about the dangers of smoking pot: health, employment, felony conviction, reflexes in driving, poor judgment, memory loss, additives that may have been put in to "cut" it, chemicals that were sprayed on it during growth, the list goes on and on. As her father, you are the only one right now who can talk to her since you have decided to keep the mom out of it. You really need to think about why you don't see her drug use as a problem.

You are aware the pot is a stepping stone drug? Many people who smoke for a long time start to build a resistence to the drug. It takes more and more to get even the smallest high. After awhile, they start to look for other, stronger drugs to get the same feeling. You never know when a pot user has actually progressed to heroin, cocaine, acid, etc...

I'm sorry for being so negative here, but I feel that parents should teach their children from a young age about how bad drugs are. I don't understand why you are encouraging her.

I have a 28 year old son,who is a recovering meth addict. For many years I justified his drug use by saying it is only pot it is not really hurting anything.Boy was I ever wrong. All I did was help him on his way to hell. He has been in prison 3 different times. It is called tough love and it is not an easy thing to do, but I speak as one who has been in your position, put your foot down and quit helping her be a user. Offer to help her by getting her in a treatment program, but please let her know you love her and you will not condone her drug use any more. Hopefully she will live one day to tell you how much doing this was the right thing.

No you dont have to go, she is a grown up woman.

She should be aware that smoking pot too long will stop your development , you will stay childish. Later when you grow older you cant cope with the problems of life because you never learned, you smoked them away.

I know this from an ex-girlfriend she started to smoke at the age of 14 and at the age of 40 she still smoked she had a lot of tempers nobody liked her anymore

Taking her there is making sure she continues her habit so u are in fact harming her. Sit her down and tell her you care too much about her to do that to her, counsel her and do some research to find out what kinds of help is out there for her and make it available to her. If she doesn't want it the you will have done your best. But please, don't take her there. I was raised with pot growing all around it and my brothers using it, and never once did i take it. Now my son does and its slowly destroying him. Esp the hydro...trust me its no good. You truly have no idea what you are getting your child into. There are different kinds of pot ou there...and none of the good. Is strong drugs in its raw form!!!

Sure it is OK, just as long as you understand that one night while you are leaving the house and the police pull you over you and your daughter will both go to jail. Your car will belong to the Sheriffs department it will become a part of a little auction they hold to raise money. You will both have a criminal record, yours more severe than hers, because after all it was your car and you were the driver that took her there. Other than that I see no problem in it at all.

Find one that delivers, that way should you get busted at least you will have a car to ge to court in.

No dont take her anywhere cause you will get busted if the police catch you both and you will get in trouble as well as her so my advice is since she will do it anyways let her find another way to get there. That is condoning what she is doing and no Im not preaching saying its right or wrong, but you should stay strong and for the best for her try and get her to quit.

Instead of taking her to the dealer, how about stopping off at rehab on the way there? Honey, it's not okay. Drugs are drugs no matter how big or small. They start with one and they'll graduate to bigger and better things once their body becomes immune to the buzz. Do you really want to encourage that? I know you said she'll go anyway, but shouldn't you be trying to talk her out of it?

What exactly are you hoping to accomplish here? You can't protect her and I doubt that she wants you there. You will see more than you want to and your daughter will be ridiculed for bringing you. Maybe you're hoping that they won't sell her any with some old guy staking the place out. That's the only reason I can see to go.

It depends on your views on weed. Do you think it's wrong/bad to smoke weed? If you do, then taking her to the dealers house in condoning something you don't agree with, and that's bad. But if your views on smoking weed is that it's not that big of a deal and it doesn't bother you, then don't feel bad for taking her. Just make sure you don't ever get caught with it. Guilty by association....