How Do I change ME??

Your dating....its a time to get to know them. When you decide to establish a relationship ...then you pick one. After a couple dates with both ladies - you should be able to tell who you like.

Here is a hint- woman like a guy with some mystery. You dont need to tell these woman you are chatting with others..thats not there business. And when you date them- they dont need to know you havent dated in years- that is the pure joy of on-line dating ...NO ONE knows you. You can start over each time.

Going on dates makes you learn so much more about yourself then anything. You need to go outsise your box alittle each time to grow with these ladies. And remember - dating is fun. Not all dates end up with a relationship. You may need to date- 10- 15 woman before you find a spark. But trust me the more first dates you go on- the easier it is.

Date them both a couple of times. You will know after that if you want to keep dating one of them or not. I've dated more than one person at a time. It only takes one or two dates to know if there is a connection. Most of the time, there isn't. Dating is just that, dating. No commitment. If you start feeling an emotional commitment, that is when you start dating only that person. Good luck.

I would say to go on a date with both of them at least once. You can usually determine whether that person is someone you would like to date further by the 2nd date. You could be stresses out over nothing here. One could turn on not to be anything that you want, or one might be better as a friend. So just go with the flow and date them. That is what dating is about!. Unless you are deciding to be exclusive with a lady, you are free to explore the world, so enjoy it!

welcome to the world of internet dating.

Just because you have chatted with these women doens't mean you will date either of them. What I suggest is that you have coffee with each of them....I call these meetings "meet n' greet"

Always meet in public place. Never plan a long date. Just a lunch or coffee. Never feel like you are dating until you feel like you want to keep seeing the person. You might meet both of them and not be attracted at all with either of them. It is very common for internet singles to meet many people before finding one that they want to see again.

If you are just connecting online there is no reason to tell that there are others. And also I find it best to meet real soon, otherwise you can spend months chatting and emailing etc with a person and when you meet them there are nothing like you imagined them to be or they might be wonderful but no feeling of chemistry.

You are right to just want to date one person at a time. I have set guidelines for myself. If I don't have a boyfriend I do meet & greets and often have repeat dates here and there ....like dinner and a movie with guys I have met in the past. Once there is handholding and kissing....I only see that person and don't meet anyone else. I don't see anyone else. There is no obligation to keep seeing someone even if you have more than one date or more. Some guys just stop calling or some or myself will say, I don't feel a connection, it was nice meeting you, I wish you well.

This computer dating sets up a whole new world in dating.

A person must learn to accept rejection. It is very easy to get hope up when communicating with someone.

There have been times when guys have totally lied and misrepsented themself in who they are and what they do. Some put up pictures of 15 years ago and they don't look anywhere close to their picture. You need to bewars of gold diggers and women who JUST want a man.....any man. Also, when you do meet someone you just might see that they live a style that you couldn't ever be part of. Also they can be very nice online but once you meet them they are controlling and perhaps so needy that you feel smothered.

I don't want to discourage you from internet dating. I just want you to understand the process. I personally don't have any other way to meet singles my age. I have learned who I should and shouldn't meet. I also learned that months of exchanging emails can totally crash your feelings when you actually meet the person.

Be sure and don't be afraid to not feel obligated to keep seeing someone you aren't interested in. And don't worry about seeing someone for a few weeks and making the decision that they aren't a match for you.

I wish you well.

There are two things you should make sure of in a situation like this. First of all, being honest is extremely important, and it's obvious you already know that. Secondly, don't commit right away to either of them, at any level whatsoever. Don't kiss, have sex with, or do anything intimate with either one of them until you are sure which one you want. The reason for this is because it wouldn't be fair to either woman if you did, and also by not being physically involved, you have nothing to feel guilty about. Each woman will respect you for not only your honesty, but also for taking things slow and keeping everything fair for everyone. Furthermore, if either of them have a problem with this situation, it will make the choice a little easier anyway. As long as you control the situation and keep things fair and honest, you can't lose.

My mom told me that the reason for dating is to find out what you like and what you don't. Dating is not committed, and as long as you're up front and honest, you're not hurting anyone. You're learning something new! It's great! A committed relationship is termed... long term relationship or committed or monogomous... or when you ask the other to not see anyone else, and you make the same promise. Dating is different today. We're not in high school anymore. You're MEETING people. They are not your "significant other" if you're going to meet them. Just a candidate, a contestant, a fellow player.

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dateing is a good thing and dateing more than 1 isnt bad but u need to tell them and when u decide who u want to make it a go with then let them both no so no one gets hurt u can't limit you'r self because if u do how will u no if there aint some one out there u r missing as long as you dont hide anything u will be ok keep shoping around till u find what u want good luck sweety

OK... again- I didn't read other people's answers.... here's my cent: I don't think you can call it "dating two people" at the same time as in seeing someone who is considered your girlfriend, yet............ you are still trying to see which one is the right one for you. It's your perception that you need to adjust. After your meeting with each of them and you know you only like one (I hope) then it's your duty to stop seeing the other one. In fact you can see more than two, if you are still trying to meet the right one. There's nothing wrong with that- unless you go beyond conversing... No intimacy, yet... just talk is ok.

Limit your involvement with both until you are ready to choose or one of them decides not to see you any more. Don't get yourself into nightly phone calls and endless texts and emails. If you're not ready to commit to seeing just one of them, keep things lowkey and casual. See each one a maximum of once a week and tell them when convenient times are to call. Don't answer emails or text messages right away unless there is good reason. You're not playing hard to get. You're just trying to keep any of the 3 of you from being too badly hurt.

Dating doesnt mean you will have a relationship with them..It is a process of knowing someone.. Try to meet both of them in a different set of time, to find out who you really like.. ..I dont think it is wrong to do that, since you dont have any commitment to any one.. If you are committed already which means "relationship with someone" then it is wrong to date another.