What to do with this guy?

Bald (on purpose) and Fat (chubby), you say?

Same thing. This is your man! Have a great date!!! I can read between the lines, you are infatuated! ;)

Well, after reading over your question I'm under the assumption that this is more of an person you don't usually have much social intercourse with unless your other friends..the "friends" are around. Am I correct?

So, I say go on the date anyway. It sounds as though it promises to be a good time and with three kids on the back burner, who couldn't stand to get the hell away for a fun evening?

I do believe that although there may be a possibility that this fellow may wish to lay the groundwork for a relationship you are quite sure as to where you stand on this point. You also pointed out that he knows you are in the market for any serious relationship at this juncture so that saves you having to lay this all out to him. of course you just may have to should he make an attempt to change your mind but I also suspect you'll remind him of this politely.

Now if he gets all twisted and bent out of shape because you will not continue or change your mind then to hell with it. Who needs another "kid" when you already have three.

But I say sure...go ahead..have fun. If you have to tell him this either nicely or if you end up having to hit him in the head with a 2x4 you've made your point. He may not ask you out again but hell...it was an enjoyable evening anyway and didn't hurt your pocketbook.

Well you did tell him you weren't looking and he still wants to go. Give it a shot, sometimes the best boyfriends were just friends first. No one says you have to commit but if you have 3 kids I am sure a night out is in order. Everyone needs a break and he sounds like a nice guy.Good Luck!!

When you are a single mum - you need all the time out you can get. Take it! You have already laid the groundwork regarding your feelings for him. It can be incredibly liberating and a lot of fun going out with someone you are not trying to impress or get all up close and personal with. You'll probably have a great time and turn a good friend into a great friend. Enjoy this opportunity - go! Go! GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You can spend time with him, but certainly make it clear up front that "I am probably not your romantic lady, but if being friends is okay with you, I'd love to stay friends" An open, honest statement like this doesn't put him down in any way, and you get to be honest. The next move is his..... The language you use is important, if indeed you do wish to remain his friend. This statement is not a slap, not insulting, just open and honest. He really couldn't ask for anything mre. Again, the next move is his......

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I feel if he is only your friend and you think that he wants more I would not go, and explain that you do not see him in that way. If he insists that does not matter than go. As for the kids, it sounds as if you are not ready to move on. Let me tell you this from my own experience, One day your children are going to grow up and you will be on your own. Do you want to be lonely? My kids never took back seats to my now husband and now they actually look at him as there father as theirs is not in the picture anymore. Think about the future for yourself. I have four and he has helped raise them since my was 4. I even explained it to my children in that way too.

You never know, he might not want a serious relationship and is just looking for someone to go out and eat with. SInce he is chubby I am sure he likes to eat. I am sure he wont have a problem with that. Since he is such a nice guy

If you want to go out as friends thats fine, be sure he knows...and keep re-telling him...that you are not interested in a relationship right now. Eventually he'll get the point...and hopefully won't be to heartbroken and still be friends.

You're sitting there with three kids? No offense, but I doubt that guys are busting down your door, right? Be thankful someone has an interest in you, go on the date and see what happens.

I would let him know soon as you can, otherwise he will feel betrayed if you tell him later on. Just be honest, he should be able to deal with it, and he should still want to be friends. If he doesnt want to be friends only, he also wouldnt be a good friend in a relationship - even in serious relationships your partner is still a friend. Good luck.