Question About Nanny's Behavior?

i dont think so, you should talk to her about it and let her know not to let something similar to happen again because even those who get arrested are being let known why they are being arrested. you should give her another chance let her know so she wont do other odd things it was a mistake. think about how long it would take before she finds another job to make a living. i meen, put urself in her shoes, it's kind of harsh to just fire someone without a warning. maybe she doesn't see it as something so bad, you know.

I would say the behavior is odd, but that might just be her way of having fun. I would talk to your daughter first and see if your daughter has anything negative to say about the nanny. If she has no complaints, I would just advise the nanny that you are trying to make sure your daughter stays healthy, and you don't feel comfortable with another person's saliva all over your daughter's face. Be honest with her. I don't think firing her is necessary unless your daughter has complaints about any other behaviors that the nanny displays. Your nanny may just be slightly immature, and doesn't think like you and your husband do. This is a delicate situation seeing as it's very difficult to find a good caregiver nowadays. I'm sure your nanny will understand. Good luck!

In all honesty it depends on your style, methods, or environment that you would like your child to be raised in. Personally, if you dont feel comfortable with the nanny she really shouldn't be around. You are inviting someone into your home and it should not be weird or odd. As for the nanny licking the child's face, honestly on that one, it IS odd. But. It is teaching your daughter something. It's ok to make mistakes. By not just outright correcting her your daughter doesnt feel chastised, and I'm sure your daughter realized that she called the nanny the wrong name, but an ackward or forceful moment was avoided. So it's all about how you guys want to raise your child. I say this because if you want you to use strict methods(which honestly work) to raise your daughter then yea, this is defintely the wrong nanny. If you are doing a more flexible method or style, then she sounds fine. But in the end you guys are the parents it comes down to if she fits with YOUR environment that you want YOUR child exposed to..

I really hopes this helps, but in the end you and your husband should sit down and talk about this, and decide if she works well for what you guys have in mind...

Greetings! I don't really fit into your elligibility criteria you have set forth to answer your question. However i'm quite shrewd enough to understand people.

It seem that you have been nursing the grievances against her for quite sometime. You should have dealt with her then and there. Now you are trying to catch the horse once it's bolted. Nevertheless, there are two manners in which you can address this issue.

First, you are looking at her action with a contempt because of the unpleasant relation with your nanny. Hence to me, a harmless play has been interpreted in your way. On the other hand, if she has sniffing your daughters bottom when she is pretending to be a dog you wouldn't have posted this question. (However harsh it sounds in the latter example i don't mean to be rude) One could expect an alarming consequences if that has happened. And i suspect you still contemplating her behaviour to be labelled "totally wrong"

Secondly, everybody derseves a chance to explain in a civilised society, even the criminals do in this country.

Wow! Though she did cross the line, I don’t feel that it is something you should fire her for. She was just being playful. She wanted you to see that she is friendly, likes your daughter, and that she is playful.

I don’t think you should approach her with this one unless she does it again. It will just embarrass her and she may start feeling uncomfortable. I suggest you “go though the back door” with this one. Talk with you daughter about good and bad touching. Give her permission to tell her nanny that she does not like to be licked. Do some role playing with her so she can get some ideas on what to do when she is with the nanny. We all make mistakes. If the nanny continues to behave inappropriately, speak with her. Start off with a complement "I really love how you are so playful with my daughter but I felt uncomfortable when you licked her." Go with your gut! Find a new nanny if you feel something is not right. Hope this helps!

First off, I have been a nanny of 4 kids (was with them for 2 years). Tho I had never done this type of behavior, I do think that maybe the nanny was just having fun. If you are that uncomfortable with what she says or does with your children, then you MUST speak up to her. How will she know your boundaries and what you expect and don't expect of her if you don't tell her? Think about it. Say you are in the working world and your boss says to go to it and just get the job done, but doesn't tell you what he does or doesn't expect of you, doesn't give you the job description, etc. Would you be able to handle the job to your full capacity if this happened to you? Or say your boss did give you a vague idea of what he expected, but wasn't explicit, so you weren't able to perform to your full capacity due to the vagueness of the boss. This is the same type of thing. It is up to YOU to speak up to the nanny with ANY and ALL concerns you have with how she does or doesn't handle your kids.

Have you done up a contract with her? If so, were you explicit about how things would be handled between you (daily, weekly, or monthly 'meetings' about how the nanny is doing; daily or weekly talks about how the kids are doing and any concerns both of you have; etc.). I went to a nanny school and was taught that if you DON'T have a contract that states these and many other things, then you are just setting yourself, and the nanny, up for problems and failure. There are many, many sites online that give samples of contracts for the families and annies. Search for Nanny on a search engine and you will find a bunch of them. They also give a list of what most nannies are expected to do, support groups for nannies and the families, etc. There are tons of resources for you and the nanny, you just have to search for them.

I really do think that, first, your husband needs to take a chill pill and NOT blow up and say to fire the nanny over something so trivial that can be taken care of calmly with a talk. If it isn't taken care of in a certain amount of time that the two of you are fine with, then it would be fine to fire her as you had already told her about it a couple of times. As for you, please talk to the nanny about ALL of your concerns. Don't let her little trivial things bother you or irk you. If you do, then they will just build up, you can go off like a bomb, and may end up firing her out of anger or she may quit out of anger. Again, how will she know she is doing wrong unless you tell her.

As for the nanny, I think that she was just playing, but may also be a bit immature. Talking with her and then seeing how she does afterwards should let you know.

I'm sure she was just playing, but I think that's bizarre. I have a nanny for my two-yr-old and if she ever did anything of the sort I would fire her. I think if she did ANYTHING that caused me any concern whatsoever, she'd be gone. That's just the way it is. It's not worth the risk, esp. since my nanny has my son for 40-50 hours. A mother's instinct is usually right-on.

I think that you are making to big of a deal out of the whole situation. Didn't cultures do things that we as American's think are odd. I think that you should talk with the nanny and tell her that you don't like the fact that she licked your daughter and how that behavior won't be tollerated.

Discuss it with her. It is not hygienic and it is a bit odd, but not fire-worthy. It is hard to find a good nanny. If your kids are safe and stimulated, talk to her about her behavior. Sometimes we all do things that are silly but it could just be that--silliness and nothing more.

I don't think she really did anything wrong. Strange?!? YES! I think she was just playing with your son and lacks impulse control or else just doesn't know what is socially acceptable. I would talk to her about the things she has been doing. If she continues to do strange things then I would consider firing her. Good luck!