Lack of sex drive during pregnancy. Any advice?

It sounds like you are married to someone who needs to grow up. Don't feel guilty about it for heaven's sake. He has no clue what it is like for you and apparently has no interest in trying. At least you can say you have tried and that you do care about "being there" for him. Keep your focus on what is important - growing a healthy child and being a great mom to your other child. You are married to a grown man and it's time for him to learn to act like one. Demanding sex from you in the wee hours of the morning is inconsiderate especially now at a time when you need extra rest and extra consideration from your husband. Giving him sex is not going to keep his mind off of sex, either, so don't let him pull that on you. If he wants it he will have to wait and he CAN, he will be fine. Grown-ups learn how to control their impulses to satisfy their appetitie for pleasure. I am sure you have witnessed your own child struggling to learn this very early, basic skill - it's called delaying gratification. Most people master this by the time they reach adulthood.

Sounds like he's being a big baby. And sorry, I can't relate. It's a good thing that my sex drive is low right now instead of increased, because my husband is in Iraq.

Tell him to grow up. Who cares if he has to go a little while without sex?! When I was pregnant with my son at 14 weeks my Dr ordered me onto strict pelvic rest meaning NO sex at all, NO sexual stimulation either. At 26 weeks I was placed on bed rest. I too had no sex drive and frankly I did not feel one bit sorry for my husband who whined and complained he wasn't getting none. Your body goes through major changes and if he cant understand for a brief 9 months of his life that you just aren't feeling like having sex then that's his problem. My husband even used the line "well you could always give me oral or jack me off" umm NO the term NO SEX DRIVES means just that I have no desire to please you either. He survived tell him like I told mine "if you need it that much take matters into your own hands"

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it's normal during pregnancy . . I lost my sex drive during my 1st trimester . . . some people would say that it's selfish of him to want you to do it anyway . . but in my opinion, it's kind of selfish of you to just expect him to understand . . . the two of you need to sit down and come up with a compromise . . . if you truly want your husband to be happy, you'll do what it takes to make sure it happens . . . things like this is what causes SOME men to stray . . . you know the saying, "if you don't make your man happy, some other woman will" . . . not to say that your man will cheat, but why leave his unsatisfied and then be wondering . . . I understand not wanting to, but make your man happy!

I completely lost mine too hun. I didnt get it back for a good while after I had had my son. Just have to accept it im afraid. Maybe be intimate with other things, like a massage.

He should be more understand, and I know you cannot make him be, but tell him to meet you half way and set limitations. Say I will have sex with you but only "X" amount of times until the baby is born so choose your times well or you will run out!

It is completely normal to loose your sexual drive during pregnancy. Your hormones are raging, and you are not the most comfortable. Your husband should be more understanding. YOU are carrying HIS child for goodness sake. He should be pampering you, no asking you to do things that you rather not do.

Sounds to me as if your husband has a lot of growing up to do. My advice is to tell him to grow up and start acting lke an adult becuase you don't need TWO infants around the house when the baby comes.

my sex drive was none to nill when i was in my 25 week. i know what your feeling. you could try oral...or jack him off for him...umm watch porn or let him watch porn....my husband was upset and pissed off all the time too but you got to keep telling him its normal.