Did i do something wrong?

You should not blame yourself for this. The guy sounds like a jerk to me. I have not really had the best relationships with guys either, so I understand how you are feeling. My situations were not exactly like yours, but I still get how you are feeling. The only thing I can give you for advise is that if he is not "man" enough to keep a relationship with your daughter, then it will be him that loses out on a great little girl. As for dealing with her... I can only say I would try to have as little communication with HER as possible. If your daughter goes to visit him, make sure that you are talking with him to make the arrangements. If you feel that you two "are not suppose to be together" I think that you should make that crystal clear to him, there is nothing harder than letting him think that there is something between you when you in reality have no feelings for him. It will only make things more difficult for you in the long run. Another little tip is to keep someone in your life that you feel like you can always turn to for advise either a close friend or family member (this always helps me and plus you get a second opinion for free). I hope that this little bit helped :-)

The better question is....How do you deal with someone like HIM???? If he treated me like that, he would NEVER see his daughter or me again. EVER!! The greatest proof of love is in the actions! If he treats you like crap, he doesn't love you. He is ONLY looking out for himself and ALL the CAKE he can get. Right now it sounds like he's eating it all. As long as you let him he will keep treating you this way. She is a problem (his wife) but he sounds WORSE then her. (She is hurting too because she realizes now she married a loser)

You NEED to protect your daughter from people like this. If she is going to grow strong and have lots of self - esteem, you need to get her away from all this mess. If you want to live a better life you need to find someone who REALLY loves and cares about you and your child. They are out there, hard to find but you need to hold out and look. It will be so worth it in the end. Good luck to you!

You don't. If he wanted you that that bad, first he wouldn've cheated in the first place, two he wouldn've married the girl and had a child, thirdly he wouldn't put up a front. Therefore that tells you he's not a good man and he's garbage, ***** about em! You just be independent and take care of you daughter. As for the girl forget about her too don't worry about her.

You need to get away from both of them.He cheated on her also which in a way if he is telling you he wants to be with you he cheated on you too.He cant be trusted he is a backstabber and weakminded.Why would you want him back ???? Look at how he does you and your child?He is a loser who is manipulating everyone cut them all loose and find a new man that can be decent and not hurt you.This guys a class a winner.

Take him to court get child support, and find a new man. Sounds like you are in a tough spot but strong women do make it through bad times. Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong other than get involved with the wrong guy, best of luck

You don't! You let him have his visitation with his daughter. And you pay no attention to any of the other things going on in his life. Make it clear to him that you are not interested. And pay no attention to this other woman. Why would you care anyway?

Enjoy your daughter. Move on with your life and have a fun, fun time.

Life is way too long to mess with crap like that!

The better question is why are you still dealing with him? He is obviosuly a liar and a cheat and just keeps you hanging in the background for some reason. Move on with your life already!

You don't have to deal with her, just move on. Your daughter's father is "playing both ends against the middle".

You don't! I wouldn't allow the childs father to see my child if he was with her, all visits would have to be where the wife wasn't there. I know legally you can't do that, but maybe he is stupid enough to fall for it. He doesn't sound like a real smart one anyway!

the only thing wrong you are doing is giving this man any consideration! he is rude to you in front of that other woman. then two faced to suck up to you , when she is not around. goes to show , he prob. talks down on you like sh_it when your not around. i wouldn't waist one more second worrying about this guy. he is better off left alone. an it also reminds me of saying... with friends like this , who needs enemies? leave him alone , you did nothing wrong but give this guy the time of day!