What should we do?? Break all ties or keep being miserable??

If she really is a drug addict take her to court and get full custody of the kids. Then you can just rid of her. A judge won't allow kids to be raised by a drug addict. If she went throiugh treatment to get better, she could get to see them again. I would recommend doing what's best for the children.

You really should not break all ties with her, since your husband has children with her. I would suggest that if possible you and your husband look into the option of getting custody of the boys from her. It doesn't sound like she is stable enough to care for her let alone two boys. If you can't do that, simply talk to your husband and you BOTH need to agree that when she calls and it is not something to do with one (or both) of the boys hang up. I would suggest that he tell her that he isn't her husband (or boyfriend) anymore and she needs to find someone else to lean on when she needs a hand. He is the father to the boys, and if something is wrong or needed for the boys he will take care of it.

I wish you had said the boys' ages. You can't break all ties with your husband's sons. If they are living with a crazy, drug addict mother, then it would be best if you two got custody of them. If the mother wants you to have them all the time, then you could probably move away. I feel so sorry for you and your family.

If the mother is a drug addict how did she get the custody of children? Is your husband ready to take the responsibility and what about you? If you both can take care of them that will be peaceful for children too. You can easily get custody through court.

You should both sit down with her and tell her that you are happily married and what ever she does she can not change that. If she wants you to have the boys then take them, it sounds like they don't need to be with her anyways. If they stay they could end up just like her and that wouldn't be good. Make sure it goes through the courts and you guys get legal papers stating that you have custody. Then tell her to leave you guys alone. The only time she would need to see or talk to either of you is if she has visitation. Make sure she understand that she is not to be calling, and that she is to leave you both alone or you will have to take further action against her. I wish you all the luck in the world. God Bless. If you need to talk just e-mail me.

i would take the children with you, she is a drugs addict any idea how the children will be later when they are grown up?

take them with you and move to an other place you are now with im and its youre life now also, think of everybody it will be good to get ridd of that women. for you, you're husband and the children.

you also have to think that it are also his children and look at them as if it are you're children also, and think what will be gooed for them.

good luck and hope it helps you a litle bit

It is difficult when it comes to children especially

when you deal with an ex wife who is not in the right

frame of mind.

If she is using drugs maybe the children would be better off with

you and your husband.

If she's acting like that imagine what the poor little kids have to live with everyday! Bring em home girl!

if she is willing to give up all custody rights to her children i suggest you and your husband bring them home and make then part of your family. that way the kids will no longer be exposed to that enviorment. in this case the needs of his children come first.

Your husband needs to grow a backbone.