Some of the most successful relationships are based on lies, true, false or somewhat right?

Yes it's more like to be true.That's called white lies

I don't think you can compare the lie meant to spare ones ego regarding their appearance to the lie of a lifestyle - the lie of an entire existence.

No one gets hurt? In theory if no one finds out you could believe that to be true. However, the wife knows. On some level this lie always undermines the relationship she has with her husband. She always withholds something - keeps something in reserve meant for her husband but kept for her lover. Whether it's one night of affection or a thousand or whether it's the intimacy she shares with the lover in the form of a secret, a moment of vulnerability or a truth that will only be told once, it's something she won't share with both. She can't take it back. She can't spread it so thin as to make it available to the lover as well as the husband.

Someone always gets hurt. If not the husband then how bout the lover? The man who will never have the woman who cannot be fully available to him physically, emotionally or socially.

If not the lover then the woman. She will always know. She will always feel she is less than who she might have been in both worlds and to herself.

Good question.

lies never works

A good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

Marriage may be compared to a plant that requires daily nurture, daily attention, daily care and cultivation. It will not develop of its own accord; only as effort and will are exerted will it grow and mature. For a marriage to succeed, both husband and wife must be committed to its success. They must build an enduring love relationship that is centered in the heart of their consciousness. Their relationship must be nurtured with the water of loyalty and love.

I don't know how a relationship could be successful if it is full of or based on lies, even 'white' lies.

Myself, I would feel so guilt ridden from lying that there would be no way on Gods Green Earth that I could fake a smile and act like a happy person, I would be absolutely miserable inside and therefore ++++ "If she's not happy, YOUR not happy!"

Right? Yea! Right! ;)

It's true and it makes sense. Lies seem to keep the peace, truth usually starts arguments.

Relationships will last longer with less arguments, that's just a fact. Who wants to stay with someone when you're arguing all the time?? Not me.

u got a point. but ther are many relationships that r based on big white lies. lol

a lie is a lie,,,an excuses is an excuses,,,the truth is not known of or

heard of..................and trust as well..

who is to say what is what?...........it's just about what we all want to hear,

so im told.

That question is not worth the thought.

True.