How can I (elderly handicapped lady) get out of abusive situation, but not lose my home?

Your husband sounds like a disgusting, uncaring abusive jerk !! You should not be putting up with his very cruel abusive behaviour. Call the police. Who cares if he looses his job !! Do not stoop to his level by being abusive back, ignore him !! He may be stressed at work but that is not your fault. Surely your children will help you out with somewhere to stay if need be but l would certainly being ringing a woman's shelter or helpline to get some advice. Do not put up with him any longer, do something about him right away before his abuse gets any worse. Good luck to you for the future. Try to have a Merry Xmas.

if he is being physically abusive even on rare occasions you need to call the police. but to be honest with you from the sounds of it the reason you have done nothing to put an end to all of this is because he is the one with the money coming in. it is to bad that you would chose to put up with this for that reason.to me it would not be worth it.if you are handicap then you must be collecting something. if not then i would apply for ssi. then once you have done this you have money of your own, then you should be able to leave his sorry butt and get a place of your own. then go after him for spousal support.and i agree i would tell the kids whats going on.trust me the home is not worth it.

I do understand the reason you have asked this question, as I even have often chanced on myself questioning precisely a similar element. the reality of the difficulty is, maximum elderly human beings desire appropriate care. In severe situations, some elderly human beings require care that includes using lifting kit, which will advise that babies wishing to handle this criminal accountability could desire to have changes carried out to their residences. There are additionally different factors to contemplate which includes scientific standards, hygiene, scientific care etc that the youngsters will possibly no longer have the skill to furnish to their elderly mothers and dads. It has additionally been heard that many old human beings could desire to flow to a nursing domicile, as they do no longer desire to be a burden on their youngster's lives. Nursing residences, the sturdy ones - there are some undesirable ones accessible - furnish high quality care, and additionally furnish an atmosphere the place social interplay with different citizens is obtainable. An elderly individual being cared for via infants will possibly no longer have this interplay as presently, virtually each and every grownup works to maintain an extensive to usual existence type. My spouse's mom is in a nursing domicile, as she demands complete time care because of the outcomes of an extensive to deadly stroke. it may be impossible for any of her infants, or her husband to furnish the point of care that she demands. I understand why you ask this question, yet in lots of situations, that is not conceivable for infants to be looking after elderly mothers and dads.

you most definetely can call the police. i would not worry about him losing his job. if he is being abusive to you verbally and physically then it is okay to have him removed from the house by the police.

you need to do something. it is absolutely apalling and unbelievable to me that someone could be abusive to a person who is handicapped (and i am assuming) can't even fight back-- not that that is or would be the answer, but come on!!!

call the cops next time.

First if there is physical violence, call the police immediately! If not check with the local battered women's shelter, they are there to help and can give referrals. Try community resources like a church or help hot line. There is a lot of help for women in your situation. Make your New Years resolution to CHANGE your situation. Courts can order counseling.

Seek legal help. Also, let your kids know what is going on even though they live out of state. Most states will always be for the elderly and you will be given a place to live or given your home.

See a lawyer. Sue hubby's pants off. Normally, I don't advocate women seek alimony unless they have kids to take care off or are in special situations like you. Look for PRO BONO lawyers --those who offer free help to the poor--in your state. Also contact Social Services or Unemployment Services and ask them to find work. I have many friends in wheelchairs who work. You will need the money. Best wishes.

Call a lawyer.

A lot also depends on whose name the house is in. Is it in yours, your husband's, or both? You may have to get a divorce. If you have no money, there are organizations that provide free legal help to the elderly. Good luck!

Do you have any family in the area? Or call your kids and ask to come live with them. You don't deserve to be treated like this and you don't have to stay there. Remember, there are no victims, only volunteers.

Contracts are getting less expensive there days. You may find a bargain out there, but the economy is still good.

Have one of the children take you in, they owe you. AND why do you call it 'your home', doesn't your husband own some of it too?