My husband will not take responsibility...?

Sometimes it takes a shock to make someone start behaving responsibly. An alcoholic will remain an alcoholic whilever there are no consequences for their behaviour. If you have talked with him about his irresponsible behaviour and he still continues with it, then maybe more drastic measures need to be taken. Maybe just tell him you have had enough and you are leaving...maybe that is the shock he needs to make him realise his behaviour has got to the point where it is totally unacceptable.

It also seems to me that he has been bought up this way, if his mother, sisters, etc are still babying him, so its going to be quite hard to get what you want because they will come to his defence probably, so you may just have to walk out that door to prove your point. You are not just dealing with your husband, but his entire family...they obviously think he is incapable of being a man. Maybe talk to them, tell them to get any kind of solution they have to work with you. All of you need to take away your support to allow him to sort out his own messes. I guess thats easier said than done where money is concerned, but you have to do something drastic if he is ever going to wake up to himself, and you really need the support of his grandmother, mother and sisters otherwise you will be fighting an uphill battle.

Good luck, you are going to need it.

Sorry to say but he doesnt sound like someone who is ever going to be willing to step up and be a man. If he really cared for your well being as well as your childs he would do things to help. Tell him you are talking to lawyers because raising a child around someone like that will either cause the child to be the same or cause the child to resent the father because of his neglect. I say this becuase my step-father has been the same to my mother for the past 11 years and he is just now starting to get better but still has TONS of barriers to cross. Just keep talking to him about how you feel and let him know there are reprocutions to his lazyness and you arent going to take the way he treats you. If you dont do something now you may never have the strength to do it and will never get better and maybe even get worse. Talking to a professional about your frustrations may not be a bad idea. Best of luck to you

You should stay with your mother and tell him that your not coming back until he gets his finances straight and starts acting like a man. If he can do this, then tell him that you will only come back if you have complete control of all bills. Have it set up to where he can only take money out of the bank if you are with him. Hold 10% of both your checks in savings. Good luck and God bless.

Make a list of all the chores that need to be done for your family and household. While you are both calm, present him with the list and say that you need to split up the chores. Write down a name next to each chore and make sure his name is written down for a fair amount. Post the list in your house and hold him to his commitments. If he is not willing to do this, seek counseling and ask for a divorce if nothing changes.

What I have found in anyone taking on responsibility is that you have to let them make their bed and then lie in it--and that takes everyone involved--such as talking to his Mom and sister and everyone else he goes to for help--telling them what is the problem and asking them to quit stepping up to the plate when he asks them to--another word to butt out--(nicely) That he will never learn how to stand on his own two feet if everyone keeps picking up the pieces--and further more take any responsibility of finances away from him--until he can be grown up enough to help then he doesn't need to be causing problems for your family--the fastest way to a divorce is money problems--as far as a low ambition--that's a maturity thing--young men or even people in general--cant see past next week--so you are going to have to take that responsibility on and make a long term plan -sit him down and say--LOOK this is where we are and in ex amount of years this is where I EXPECT us to be --and you are going to help--period--if he is to act like a child then treat him as one--To finish here--Make to do lists---one for you and one for him and one that you do togeather--tell him GROW UP just like that ----

thumbs up to you for taking care of your business. i was once told ,by the father of my kids "taking care of them is your responsibility, not a job" all i can suggest (that works for me) is when things seem like they can't get any worse; stop, take a breath, and know that your son makes you the mom you are & if his father can't do his part and appreciate how special being a parent is, then at least you know that your son has you. i can only hope for all the sons that have fathers like this, that tey grow up to be better men & fathers.

You are a enabler. By doing everything for him and not making him take responsibility you are telling him its okay to be that way. Give him an ultimatum-grow up or get out. If he doesn't believe you pack his bags and tell him to get out until he grows up and grows some balls. He won't change until you do.

suppose he had to wash his own clothes ,cook his own meals take care of responsibities without your doing it for him dont aid and abet him if the water gets turned off or electricity because he was responsible for paying it see how long he can handle it then maybe discuss a plan that he will be responsible for certain things and you the other if he doesnt take care of his the result will be that he will have to do without

Your husband needs to step up. This is his life and his family that he seems to be carelessly throwing around. He may never be one of those men who care about saving and so on, but he sure needs to start caring about you and your son. Tell your husband how you feel about how you deal with fights. Tell him how you want it to be dealt with in the future. If he wants to keep his family he needs to learn from his mistakes and improve himself. If he doesn't or won't try, you should ask yourself how much you care about him and if you think he really cares about you.

my ex was the same way (still is actually) and to top it all off he had the nerve to get mad at me because he got me pregnant...lol trust me hun he will not change until hes ready to change. the best thing you can do is get out of the situation before it gets any worse. make a life for you and your child and be happy let him deal with his own problems