Sex before marriage?

I personally think waiting is the thing to do for multiple reasons. I did it for religious reasons mostly, but it also saved me from STDS, pregnancy at a time I wasn't ready, and a lot of heartache. My husband didn't wait for me and I did wait for him, and I don't regret waiting, but he regrets not waiting. I think people don't think far ahead in a lot of situations.

As a side note, I saw this one plastic surgery documentary about hymen restoration, and a girl got it for her bf for Valentines day because he had never been w/ a virgin, and she wasn't a virgin when she met him so she got this done to "restore" her virginity and so he wouldn't feel the need to stay and try a virgin out. How stupid is that?

If your a virgin and religious, just wait it out till your married.

If you abstain from sex before marriage your going to be wacken it to porn and your fiance will leave you before your wedding date.

If you have sex before your married, your only going to get yelled at by the others parents or maybe even your own. But who cares about them isn't the relationship about sex REALLY!? And a little love and respect. But your seriously not respecting the others hormones, I mean come on GOD made this blessing for us RIGHT? I know he also said no sex before marriage but what if he was really saying no sex before marriage is a sin.

If your a virgin and your waiting for the right time with the right person DON'T.

BECAUSE..... You may be really bad at sex and when you find the right person he may think your the wrong person. Face it you may need some professionals to yank the virginity out of you and make you a pro and your Mr/Ms right will keep you forever. Hey don't they always say, "I stay in the relationship because the sex is good?"

Sexual compatibility is a huge component of a healthy marriage.

The only way to know if sexual compatibility exists is to get to know each other before it's too late. There's only so much that books, videos, and discussions can remedy. If the attitude toward sex isn't right, then the compatibility will never be right.

Sex itself is not a bad thing and most 18 year olds are ready to explore this special intimacy in a responsible manner. Sex is a great shared intimacy between mature individuals. If they are old enough to vote and die for our country, they certainly are old enough to have consensual premarital sex.

Sex is pleasure. Enjoyed responsibly, there is no reason, other than personal choice, to practice abstinence as an adult.

Jim, there seems to be a strong effort behind religious reasons for no sex before marriage. From a physical standpoint, men and women were designed to have sex with each other. Society put in place the institution of marriage to protect the mother and child. So it can be argued that a) if the woman will be protected [from getting pregnant] and there is no child to protect {i.e., use of birth control] then there is no natural reason to not have sex. There are emotional reasons, however, and these are unique to each individual, and must be considered. Bottom line, if you want to and your partner wants to, it is your decision. If either of you feels a religious compulsion one way or the other, honor it. If either of you feels some other emotional reason to say yes or no, then that's it. Good luck. I personally don't think this is a major question in life's drama.

I dont really have marriage in my plans for my future. I see guys and relationships but not necessarily marriage. If it comes up then there you go otherwise its not a big deal to me. I, right now, see marriage as an inhibitor to life right now because right out of high school I can make all of my own decisions where as with a husband I would also have to run at least some of them by him.

My sister cant wait. In fact she wont. She has known this guy for three years and they have been dating for half. In one year - the summer she gets out of high school - they plan to marry. She loves it and cant wait for kids.

Most of my family is very family oriented. I guess I have just been the odd man out most of my life, might as well followed suit here, huh? lol

So sex before marriage, i am not against it. But if you want to wait and can do it power to you. Nothing against it.

Sex, unfortuantely, is a big deciding factor in a relationship. You may love someone so much, but if you wait until marriage and you are unsatisfied with sex, you are going to wander what else is better, especially if you watch porn and see ideal sex, which in videos appears to be the most satisfying. Whether it is or not, if you wait to make a commitment to someone for the rest of your life, then think there are more satisfying sexual oportunities, you will become curious and it will increase your chances of cheating. I think it is best to sexually experiment and then be sure that you'll be completely satisfied with your husband or wife.

It is human nature to explore sexuality. So I think sex before marriage isn't necessarily a bad thing but it needs limitations (i.e. don't become the town sleaze). Marriage to me is sacred, I only plan to do it once. After all, you are vowing your life and love to that one person.

it's to weird to marry someone without having sex with them first. Sex is a HUGE part of happiness in marriage

well many moons ago when i was still a virgin, i made that decision to have sex because i felt i was ready-it wasnt something i took lightly but i loved the person and i felt it was right-i ended up marrying the same guy 6yrs later--even tho we recently divorced i wouldnt change anything

Would you buy a car before driving it?

no?

Then why get married having never had sexual contact with the peron? Sex is as importinat to a relationship as a motor is a to a car.

Sure.. it may look nice in the ad, but you know you would drive it first.