Birth Parent of adopted Child?

How old is your son? Maybe you can talk to the grandparents about visiting and how important it will be for you both to have a relationship.

(((HUGS)))

I can't imagine the pain mother's go through when they give their child to another family. As a mom myself it competely rips my heart out. And, then to hear how young you were (and are) when you had him and gave him away...

I can't believe the grandparents aren't abiding by the adoption!

Please seek legal counsel!!

You may be able to get out of the contract because of your age. That is way to young to be able to understand what you were doing with your child. And, it even goes in your best interest if they aren't letting you see him - aren't abiding by the contract.

I am a paralegal and think you have a good chance of getting your son back.

Check for an attorney who specializes in family law. Ask about fees upfront. There are lawyers who will only get paid if they win your case. So, if you loose you pay nothing.

GOOD LUCK!!

I feel awful for your situation. Maybe you'll be in a place one day when you can adopt a child of your own. That may help. I think it was very brave of you to give the child up for adoption.

In response to the reader telling you to try to get your child back, I would encourage you to think long and hard about that before you act. As much as you love your child and as much as you wish things had turned out differently, the act has already been done. I've seen a child taken from grandparents who had cared for him for years and give to a father he hadn't seen in years and didn't remember. It was heartbreaking. Years ago, you tried to do what was best for the child and not just what was best for you. Keep that in mind. Is trying to get him back what is best for the child?

Chances are that when the child is older, he will want to seek you out on his own. Just be ready for when that happens. In the meantime, keep a diary for him to read. That way, when he meets you, you can give him a book that shows how often you thought of him and worried about him and prayed for him.

My heart goes out to you. Although I have no idea where you stand legally, try asking the grandparents if you can visit. If they refuse, you might be able to go through the courts and at least get visitation rights.

It is very normal. but it is not normal for your parents to hold a grudge against you for that long. Exspecially if you have turned your life around. I do hope you know how stupid you were to be pregant at 13. And I hope you can show other girls and guys what pain and suffring it can cause. As for your son for now you can write him a letter everyday and put it aside and someday he will be able to read them

oh you poor thing my heart goes out to you i would try counselling good luck for the future

ps after reading add details i would have 2 agree with suggir be

the worst thing or the worst decision ever made is giving your son up for adoption...how terrible... how was your heart when you gave him for something like that....try to get him back if you could..