How can I make my husband happy with me?

Honey, you have made it 26 years. He wishes you were blonde and classy? I doubt it. He would have looked elsewhere a long time ago. Try to have your own life. Be interested in your own thing. As soon as you start to ignore him, and not make him so important, then he may start to notice you. I am sad that you think you need to become someone who is not who you are, in order to make him crave you. I think he fell in love with you a long time ago, went against his familys wishes, and married you. He may say he wants someone different in order to keep peace with his family. Seems like they have a lot of say. 26 years? Even after that long, maybe you need to start having your own life. Then he may take notice of you...not someone who he wishes you were! God Bless you!

I'm a guy to begin with, you know what, you must be happy to be who you are, you must learn first to love yourself before attempting to let someone loves you. If you abandon yourself, then who can help you?

First, you must build up your self confidence. Join a fitness club to get tone up and a Yoga package to streamline those details. Second, throw away the clothes in your closet, trade in for something new, bold or even better something fresh. Third, have a complete makeover (hair, nails and even make), get serious pointers from the professional or take a trip down the Central Business District, you'll get what i meant. Fourth, dump your husband for a while go for a trip and expose yourself to the unknown, be independent and learn to relax. Last but not least, get hookup in a new hobby something that makes you stand out from their family. Maybe sailing, yatching, golfing, painting, pottery, hiking or even backpacking.

The more you yearn to attract him the more you look desperate. Build up your confidence, tell yourself you're beautiful and sexy. When you start loving what you see yourself in the mirror everyday, then will others take notice of you.

Simple, will not quite exactly, remember you must be discipline and it will certainly pay off. Good luck gal ^_=

Your husband should love you the way you are. You should not have to change a thing for him to want you. He knew that you were not these things before you got married and should not expect you to be different now. I think that you should be happy with who you are and realize that you are fine just the way you are. I think you should talk to your husband about this and let him know how you feel. Tell him how it makes you feel that he doesn't love you the way you are. Good Luck.

You can't MAKE him happy. He needs to choose to be happy. That being said communication is vital. Ask him why he is feeling the way he is. See if there is something you do to help. Should counseling be considered? If on the other hand your questions means "how can you physically please your husband, there are many places for couples to look (on line and at the library) to find new ways to please each other. Don't let yourself feel responsible for someone else's happiness then you are putting your own happiness at risk.

I highly recommend that you read "His Needs, Her Needs". It is a great book and will help your marriage. He also has a website:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/

The book describes what a man craves and needs and also describes what a woman craves and needs. If you two could just talk about this sincerely and both be willing to meet in the middle, you can save your marriage and rekindle that spark that made you fall head over heels in love with each other. I wish you the best.

If I were your husband: all you would have to do is ask ME that same question in sincerity. I'd be delighted to have a wife who cared enough to even ask!

hun, after 26 years, if he doesnt want you, he NEVER will...

talk to him

Ask him. We don't know.

is this my wife?