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I'm 23 and he's 35. I don't know what to do!?

I'm really attracted to this guy and he seems to be the same towards me. I've always found older men more attractive than guys my own age. I guess it's a maturity / responsibility thing. The saying goes "Men don't get brains until they're 35." And it's true... But I feel nervous because I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I can't really interpret what he's thinking, but he asks me very personal question and always seems interested in me and what I have to say. We have a lot of the same opinions. The other night we sat and talked until 5 in the morning... Should I just go for it or hang back and let him make the first move?

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  • kbama
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Alaina, Of course you know what to do. Age is not the problem -- so what is? Are you worried what your friends or relatives might say? Is he married? Is he divorced with kids? What is the problem that you are not telling us? according to what you wrote above, there is no problem and he sounds perfect for you - but if he was perfect for you you would not be asking us for advice ---- hmmmmmmmm --- Good luck -k-

  • 1 decade ago

    Anna Nicole married someone her age and got divorced a short time later. Then she married a guy that was about 125 years old. I think the age range you mention is not much of a big deal. It's more important how he treats you and how compatible you are. But, if it doesn't seem right then hold your cards for a while. It's a decision you'll have to make. The more decisions you make in life, the better off you'll be. Live your life not to please society or others... live it to please yourself and God. Do whatever floats your boat.

  • 1 decade ago

    why u feel like you are doing something wrong? do introspection first. its very easy to get involved into a wrong relationship but very difficult to come out. make sure you really seriously want this relationship before making a move. your age guys are also not less interesting.

    if you have true love for this person, then age, religion, country should be no bar. but remember true love is rare.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Funny thing here is my husband is 23 and I am 35. There is nothing wrong with your age difference. You can't lose anything by talking with him and getting to know him better. Have fun and good luck.

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  • 1 decade ago

    If you don't pursue, then you don't get what you want. Want the guy? Then make it clear. It could be a case where he's holding back, thinking he's too 'old' for you. Give it a shot. If he does stay back and keeps your relationship a friendship, then move on and find the next guy.

  • 1 decade ago

    dont worry about the age thing. Your 23 so your mature yourself. I say go for it. If he isnt maiing a move just move on him if your that keen

  • jim
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    if he sat up with you for that long, you should have done something then...... and he is obviously not gonna make any moves, so either you should ask im what he thinks of you or just make a move and see how he reacts.... life is all about taking chances.... maybe its time to take one and see what happens

  • 1 decade ago

    i hope when i 35 i get a shot at a 23 year old :)

  • 1 decade ago

    If you feel nervous take it slow, as far as dating older guys if you feel up to going for it then do it

  • 1 decade ago

    hang back and let him make the first move.

    Don't chase boys, not matter what their age.

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