How can I be a great maid of honor living on the opposite side of the country?

Mine lived in a different state and that was kind of difficult with picking out her dress, making the plans, and she did not get to throw me my party, a another friend did it for me. It was difficult but I would not change it since she was my best friend and still is....It all makes a difference on your special day when she is there sharing it with you.

I'm in Chicago and I was my best friends maid of honor in Mississippi. When she needed help with anything she called and I helped her that way. When I went to MS before the wedding then I was able to be more of a hands on help. We went from place to place making sure we had everything and even had a day of pampering the day before. So as you can see, it is possible. And maybe during the course of the year you can make a trip or two down to where she is.

What bothers me maximum approximately this question is that first you assert 'every person keeps telling me' and then in an prolonged time you label them as 'my concerns'. this is YOUR wedding ceremony do no longer enable different persons effect you like that. If she's your maid of honor i'm assuming you be attentive to her relatively relatively properly. Does she have a background of flaking out on significant events on the final minute? If no longer then concerns as far as that are no longer valid and you ought to tell those human beings to close it and which you may desire to make and not theirs. If she DOES have a background of doing issues like that. THEN that's a valid difficulty, yet returned you ought to no longer enable others comments effect you, she become okay to be your MOH at the same time as she become interior of sight and unexpectedly every person thinks she's a flake? sounds suspicious to me...via any probability are any of those people who're telling you this women persons that must be hoping for the shot on the MOH identify? as far as making plans, a good number of the belongings you mentioned can easily be completed by using e-mails. Sending pictures surfing on line etc. that's a great option in case you rather have your heart set on her being MOH. And all the littler issues like tying ribbons to the favors and stuff like that the bridesmaids can help with or different acquaintances that choose to help you out. in case you purely common don't experience soft having a MOH that lives so far-off and don't experience soft with e-mails (some issues do seem slightly diverse in actual existence than in pictures and it would make all the version) or she does in actuality have a background of being a flake then possibly you ought to evaluate making her a bridesmaid particularly of MOH

Don't worry about it, but talk to the bride about what you can do. My maid of honour was very far away too - I asked her to be in this position because she was a great friend, and wanted her to be by my side, not because I needed or wanted her help with anything. The bride understands.

Set a time to talk over plans on the phone, once a week or every other week! Send her a special mug or wine glass, you keep the matching one. Then you two can share a drink over the phone while you plan.

Find out what she needs help with, then send her emails. NOt seven thousand or ten a day, just one a week full of ideas.

Let her gush on and on. Being able to tell someone everything is what she probably wants more than any help. lol

Just make sure you keep in touch and have great communication lines - email, phone, etc. I would also try and be there for her for the 1 and 1/2 to 2 weeks leading up the wedding. that will be the craziest time and she will want you to be there. make sure you're there for the bridal shower and bachelorette party too!

be their when she calls, my matron of honor lives pretty far away from me and, no she can't really do a lot of the actual work, but when I need someone to just let me blow off steam shes always up for it and I appreciate it more than she'll ever know....I'm sure she's tired of hearin it by now, but It really has helped and I'm super grateful!

buy a subscription to bridal magazines for her that will be sent each season. go to a site of a bridal magazine in her area and order it online!

you could also send her helpful planning books.

also call her and see how she's doing be there for support, give her advice about picking light or medium pink flowers and little things like that!

you're a good friend, God Bless!