Is it ok to plan my own babyshower?

It is fun and wonderful to plan your own baby shower, you get to choose what you like , it is just fine and great that you are involved! You could get your husband involved too, it is also nice to have the guys attend the baby shower.Send out the invitations a month before the baby shower so people have plenty of time to plan to attend, the summer months are busy with everyone taking vacations. Enjoy and have fun. Best wishes and Congradulations on your first child!

All I can say is that I wish I had planned mine!!

My friend offered to do it then my sister then my cousin. So they all decided to be a team about it. Except my sister is controlling and did stuff with out asking the others or me. Then my friend has been a 0 contact to the other 2 and my cousin is so passive aggressive that anything my sister says is OK with her. I have had the biggest headache for the past 2 weeks dealing with all of them arguing with each other about this or that. And I'm not happy with half of the planning. I was told how many guests were going to be invited ( i was not asked for a list of people i wanted to be there) I was told that I was selfish because I wanted to pick the invitations that were going to be sent out.

Do plan it but do allow the help. I sent my invitations 4 weeks before the party.

It's okay to take part in the planning, but the invitations should come FROM your aunt who is the official person throwing the shower. Many people (and okay, most of them are probably a little older) think that throwing a shower for yoruself is tacky like you're just trying to get gifts. Let your aunt address and send out the invites.

Other than that-- you can help plan the food, games, etc. If you plan on knowing the sex of the baby, you can go as soon as you know and register for all the stuff you need/want.

And of course the guest list should be compiled by you anyways!! You can get all the addresses for your aunt to make her job easier. :-)

I would say it's ok to be a little involved, especially if you want things done a certain way. But the fun part about showers is not having to decorate or clean up and you get to relax and have fun. I would tell your Aunt about colors, decorations, food, and give her the guest list. But then just go and have fun. Good Luck!

You shouldn't have a shower until around your 6-7th month. Traditionally- it should be thrown by someone else- otherwise it's just a gift-grab. If anything is thrown by the mother /mother to be it is usually a party to show off the new baby.

Dear Abby would think you are tacky.. but in today's society it really is easier as you know who to invite. Send the invites at least 3 weeks in advance so people have plenty of time to shop. Be sure to include enough items on the registry for all budgets... use the suggested lists they provide and REGISTER FOR CLOTHES UP TO 12MONTHS!!!

I have heard that it is inappropriate to plan your own baby shower... I am not sure why since it is your baby.

But I think it is okay to play an active role in your shower, but don't throw it for yourself.

If you plan it in July you might want to make it towards the end. Baby showers are generally about 4-6 weeks before the due date.

I am due August 24th and my mom is throwing mine the 3rd weekend of July.

No. Just no.

1) Don't throw this yourself. While you're excited, it's thrown FOR YOU. If you throw it, it's going to sound like you REALLY want attention and gifts. You are GOING to have to learn how to give up control. Once that baby comes, you're not going to be in control of ANYTHING.

2) You have two options: have a baby shower before or after the birth. Personally I enjoy showers that are after the birth mainly because it's more of a celebration of a birth and less of an anticipation. Plus if you have a preemie or a HUGE baby, everything can adjusted for YOU.

But really, don't host it yourself. Your aunt and/or some friends are going to be doing just fine on their own.

Remember that you are pregnant, not the bride. Everything DOESN'T need to go just your way to work out. You have to learn that sometime.

You can be involved in the planning, but your aunt needs to be the host. The primary purpose of a shower is to receive gifts and it will look greedy and tacky to host it yourself.

And congratulations!

"I know that someone other than myself is suppose to plan it"

Good for you for knowing. Let them.

Really, there's just no way to throw your own politely.

Edited to add:

Re. "Besides I am doing it more for a get together then just trying to be greedy and just get gifts, it's not even like that."

But, a "baby shower" _is_ about gifts.

If you want a get-together, have a little lunch or tea after the baby arrives and make the point of it to introduce him or her.

The whole point of a "shower" = gifts. In nearly everyone's mind, at least.

Yea it's fine. My mom did my babyshower but I did have some part of it, as in picking out things etc.