My Mom Just Died?

I went through the same thing 2 years ago. I was 35 and my mom was 56. She died from liver cancer. I was very close to her. She was my best friend, mother and father. ( My dad left when I was 2 and she never remarried). I feel like I will never live a normal life again, but I have 2 children that I have to be strong for. I also felt like I was loosing my mind and I still feel that was on some days. I still cry and she is on my mind everyday. I did not take any medication. They say time will heal, it will get a little better as time goes on. I hope this helps and I am so sorry to hear about your mother.

I am a 30 year old wife and mother, going to be 31 in literally 3 days. My mom just died 3 weeks (8/18/14) ago to breast cancer at the age of 62 (very young both in heart and appearance). She (single mom) was my best friend. My mom was my career (appointments and treatments almost everyday for the past 6 years) I feel like I just got let go. NOW WHAT! She was the ONLY one that i would go to about everything! I have a 10 year old son and a husband of 9 years. I just started lashing out at my husband, cursing under my breathe and breaking dishes & scarring the crap out of my son. I feel so bad, I don't know where that came from. I feel so bad. I don't know hat to do:'(

Many of my friends who had their first baby when really young had a bond with that child that was different to their other children or, Mum's who were older. All of them said "we are more like really good 'friends or sisters' than mother and daughter. So, you have also lost your best friend because of being born when your Mum was 15.

I am so sorry for you and like others have said here you are experiencing your grief normally. Grief counselling is a good way to understand how and why you feel as you do.

Another person wrote on here that "you will cry at a movie......", this is true. There will be times and moments when you will feel an overwhelming sadness. They lessen with time, they don't fully go away.

I am sure you hug your children and tell them you love them. Be kind to yourself it has only been 3 weeks and that is not a long time in the grieving process of losing such a significant person in your life. Talk to your husband about the 'hole' that has been left within you and ask him to understand and be patient.

Seek counselling definitely. What I say to my clients is to remember the good times. Travel backwards to your first happy memory with your mother and then start travelling forward to the most recent one. When you have done that think about her smile for it is our smile that warms the hearts of those we love.

You still have your Mum with you in yourself and your children so she will never be more than a glance or a smile away from you.

Take care be kind to yourself and let your family share your sorrow as this is where empathy is learnt and shared.

I am so sorry for your loss. It would probably be a good idea to get some sort of grief counseling, whether through your physician, or clergyperson. I know you have a lot on your plate right now, but I find it helps to remember all of the wonderful things about your loved-one; the good times , the conversations. You could volunteer a little of your time to make other cancer patients comfortable, in honor of your mother. She`s watching, and feels your pain, but you will feel better.

I am really sorry that u lost your mom, especially at such a young age. I dont know how u feel but i can imagine, i would also be lost if my mom died. Maybe counselling would be your best option. As u probably will never get over losing your mom, u will get better in time, the only thing is no one will know how long it will take and who knows, u may never get over losing your mom, but she will always be with you in your heart and her spirit lives on through you. I wish u the best in your time of need and definitley go talk to a grief counseller. They might be able to help u sort out your feelings...My heart goes out to you and your family in your time of need. Keep your chin up and just take it one day at a time. It might seem bleak now, but things will get better.

Hi, what you're feeling is perfectly normal. You'll adjust over time, but you'll always feel some loss. My Mom died when I was only 23. No shame in asking for a little help either. If you have access to some grief counseling, go ahead and go. It will help. It helps to talk through your feelings so if nothing else, talk to your husband, family or close friends and it will help make you feel better. Good luck, peace.

Life must go on! I lost my father when I was 22 years old and I was single then, besides losing my father, I need to take care of my mother, give her all the support. I still went on with my life , like going to work and etc. I think you will have to normal life soon, especially you have a husband and three young kids to take care of. Just concentrate on your family everything will be fine

i haven't gone through losing a mother, but my grandmother did die of a young age due to cancer. It was so hard at first because i didn't see how someone so young and who was loved by so many people could be taken away. Eventually, I had to realize that she was always such a happy person. She never liked to see people down or see people sad. I also knew that she was with my lord and savior and that I would see her again. That helped me so much and i hope it helps you too.

Im so sorry, I offer my condolences...I had a very close relative die of cancer a feww years back. I felt like I lost a part of myself. If you dont want to take anti-depressants then go to a pschologist they will help :)

dam sorry to hear that i9 lost my brother and sister to a car wreck and i can tell you that it will hurt the rest of your life .you will be emotional at times for no reseason and some movies are going to make you sad ,time helps a little but during holidays and times at night you will have dreams.it never gets to good though,the best advice i can give you is to love your kids and let them know what a good mom you had and know she loves you.sorry about it all god bless