How do you dump a horrible friend?

before you full on get rid of her, tell her how you feel, i know it sounds dumb, but some people dont realize what jerks they are being until someone tells them, if from there she stilll doesnt get it, then you have tried all you can, and just tell her you can no longer be her friend...sadly you will probably also cut your ties with your god daugher, but maybe you can send her cards on her bday and holidays

Maybe the certificate being ruined was a good thing for you.....j/k :-)

To answer your question, I don't think you should feel forced to put yourself in a position to accomodate her when she doesn't appear to be returning the favor (in terms of being a friend). The best advice I can offer you it to have a serious conversation with your friend, then decide whether or not the friendship is worth preserving.

DO NOT base your decision on the fact that you are her baby's godmother. This, I believe, will just cause friction between the mother and the child (especially since you didn't say you were related to your "friend"). Sometimes, you just have to let go.....(but if you do, be sure and try to explain it to your goddaughter-you don't want her to be too hurt, just don't put her mother down).

Your friend strikes me as being flakey-

she disapproves of everything you do, and yet asked you to be her baby's godmother???................and yet, you should also take in the fact that you accepted (meaning, are you enabling her to be a bad friend).

Has she always been that way (criticising your lifestyle) or did she just recently start (which it sounds like she has been doing this for a while)?

From someone who has been in the same situation (sans goddaughter), good luck!!!

ETA: I've bookmarked your blog.........and I just want to say I feel for you.........

Before you dump her, ask her why she's so negative towards you? Ask her why you are expected to accept her as she is, but she's not willing to reciprocate. If she can't realize what a bad friend she's being, then you should just tell her that you can't handle her constant criticism anymore and if downing other people is the only thing she wants to do, she's going to have to find someone else to do it to. If it was your boyfriend doing it, everyone would be on here screaming abuse. It's the same with a friend. And you may love her baby, but there's not a lot you can do about it at this point. I wish you the best of luck.

The godmother part of your situation is what puts a kink in this. Otherwise I would say: Some people add or multiply into your life and some people subtract or divide into your life. Get rid of the subtraction and division.

You might just have to give her an honest straight talk about the situation and how you feel. Make sure you start your sentences with "I feel ______ when you ____." and go from there...

Tell her gently while she's relaxed that you don't approve of being verbally abused. She should know that you are a human being, not a rag doll to toss around. If she ends up steaming up, tell her you can't be expected to take her abuse all the time. If she doesn't understand, walk away from the situation so you won't get hurt. As for your goddaughter, I really can't say. You really need to rid yourself of this friend before one of you gets hurt.

Sounds like your friend is the controlling one with this situtation... mmm well try to spend less time with her.. tell her you have other plans.. mabey instead of kicking off the friendship you can minimize your time with her.... I have a friend that just seems like she talks about her stuff and that if something goes wrong she cusses 30 thousand times telling me about it.. if I say anything to her.. she almost argues with me.. and i'm 7 yrs older than she is.. with a little more life experience.. but I stopped answering my phone all the time.. and I turn my cell off at 11pm every night.. so they can leave a voice mail... if it's important enough to answer, mabey I will... but she is now my limited friend.

You let her know that there are things about her that bother you. Give her a chance to change first. If she won't stop talking down to you after you tell her what's causing you to doubt your desire to have a friendship with her, then you just say, "I'm really sorry, but this friendship isn't working out for me, because I tried to talk to you about the issues, and you didn't pay attention, so I'm sorry, but this is where I cut our ties." I know it's hard, but you have to consider yourself too.

Hmm.. try losing contact with her, like stop taking calls from her or hanging out with her, or paying more attention to your goddaughter. Another way is that using what she is doing against her.

think of this like a marriage would you stay in a marriage that was bad and made you feel terrible all the time just for the kids. then why would you stay in a friendship just for the kids.

Try talking to her about these things. Explain how her comments really upset you and that if they continue, you will no longer associate with her.