Monetary gifts for wedding gift?

I am going to a wedding in July, the bride and groom put an extra card in the invitation, saying that at the wedding there will be a "Wishing Well" set up to collect the cards and any donations people wish to make to their honeymoon fund... I don't find that offensive.

Etiquette manuals might sometimes say that, but most of the people invited to the wedding will most likely find it tacky, because that's just the general opinion. When it comes right down to it, no manual you come upon will matter if most of your friends and family are miffed, annoyed or offended because of this. Remember, the most important rule in etiquette is to NOT offend others, so defending yourself by citing etiquette manuals, without considering the cultural norms, is a breech of etiquette in itself.

Don't register for gifts. Let your parents and the wedding party know what your preference is. Many guests, family and friends will probably ask them for suggestions of what you need/want, and they can say you have all you need for the house and suggest money as a gift.

It's not appropriate in the eyes of most people for you to bring it up, but someone else can.

Give what you can afford. $50 is a good starting place, and I always give more if I am going to the wedding. After all they are feeding and entertaining me. I also throw in how well I know the happy couple. I went to a wedding last year, my friend's daughter, who I have never met was the bride. She got $70, I was at the wedding. To the daughter of a friend, same thing, I had never met the kid, and I did not go to the wedding, $50.

The etiquette manuals also tell you how to let the guests know. There is only one acceptable way and that's word of mouth. Under no circumstances should ANY kind of information regarding gifts be included with the invitations.

there is no polite way to get that across

so do try to think of some things you might need, we gave my cousin when she got married a set of dinner plates, and I think that different branches of the family and designated rooms of the house.

You could make it into a bit of joke. Like

'if in doubt of a gift, donations to honeymoon fund would be greatly appreciated'

so the message is out there, but you're not saying "we don't want gifts, we want money"

Also word of mouth, get your bridesmaids and parents to spread the word. It sounds a bit forward coming from you, but a 3rd party isn't as intrusive.

Asking for money from your guests is rude and tacky. No respected etiquette manual would say otherwise. A wedding is a celebration, not an opportunity to shake down your family and friends to make them pay for your honeymoon. Tacky, tacky, tacky. And you already know it sounds rude or you wouldn't be asking how to phrase it so it doesn't sound rude.

In the invitations? It's rude to even mention gifts in invitations! Some people suggest 'word of mouth' but still it's rude. My policy on people who make it known that they expect gifts and go so far as to request money? They get nothing. We all know that couples expect gifts, but blurting it out like some sort of ingrate? Nope. There is no way to go about that one.

Besides, you can always sell the gifts you don't want or regift later.

To the Chinese culture, friends, relatives, co-workers, family members, and all quests like to give a Red Envelop with money in it to the bride and groom.

Asking and giving money as gifts are acceptable. Please don't feel rude to ask. They can understand.

Close family members and relatives sometimes give jewlries.

a nice way would be sorry not registered at any store for for bridal shower have all appliances and neccessities already.

please come to shower with no presents please have special box personal greetings for those wishing to send best wishes.

Or can say bride and groom are going on honeymoon and appreciate all gift cards for those who would like to express best wishes for our wedding. .No presents please, we have everything we need and no more room for any extras.thank you for your cooperation.

List your local bank and a wedding fund account in your gift registry.