How do I handle a crisis my boyfriend is going through?

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My boyfriend's Grandmother is ill and he and his family are taking it extremely bad.  He's asked me to give him space to deal with this on his own.  Our relationship is fairly new and we have not yet formed a strong foundation, I haven't even met his family.  I feel as if this tragedy will change the course of our relationship.  I offered to be there for him but he said there is nothing I can do to make him feel better.  What can I do to not take this personal?  I feel selfish because I'm more concerned with our relationship than his Grandmother... any advice?

babeygirl0 · Accepted Answer

Honestly, you need to do what he asked you to and give him space. He will respect you more in the end. Tell him that your willing to give him as much space as needed but you will stand by him and be there for him anytime he needs you to be. Also I hate to be rude but if you truely care for the boy then you will stop worrying about the relationship and make sure that he is going to be okay. Grandmothers are special, it takes time to heal when things like this happens. Best of Luck

Anonymous · Answer

If you want to be with him, give him what he wants. Guys are usually pretty straightforward with telling you what they want. Also, if you ignore what he told you, he'll probably just end up breaking up with you for smothering him. He told you to give him space so do it. And also keep in mind that diferent people deal with tragedy differently. You, on one hand, may be the type that needs a should to cry on and a hand to hold. He, on the other hand, doesn't want that. He wants time to himself and space to take everything in. He's also probably very overwhelmed and doesn't know how to handle everything. I'm sure if you just do as he asks, everything will work out okay. I know it hurts now and that you're concerned - but how bad would you feel if you made things worse for him?

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How do I handle a crisis my boyfriend is going through?

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