in over my head?

You showed great respect for your wife and your marriage by walking out. Getting into situations that are just a man and a woman alone are recipes for trouble.

Talk to your wife, let her know exactly what happened and that you would prefer not to interact socially with these two any more. Let her know you love her and respect her and don't ever want to give her a reason to wonder what you would do or if you would make the same choice again.

It is not your place, or your wife's, to say anything to her husband. That is between them.

The fact that this other woman is willing to disrespect her husband, herself, you and your wife is telling of her character.

Not a friend at all. Just a selfish female that gives the rest of us that share her gender a bad name!

Cudos for being faithful to your wife, very commendable. But how jealous is your wife and does she trust you completely. If she does and finds out later, you just lost that trust. Ask yourself, would you want to know if some man came onto your wife and tried to get her to sleep with him. I would talk to my wife and stay away from that other woman. I would not, however, tell the other womans husband. It would be your word against hers. That is their problem, and it will catch up to her eventually. Your wife will probably be furious, but it should be at the other woman instead of you. If you feel it may cause too many problems if you tell your wife, then you must confront the other woman and let her know that you want to remain faithful to your wife, and that kind of behavior she showed in the kitchen is not acceptable, ever.

You have two choices. One, you break it off with this woman completely, tell her that you can not continue to have this same close kind of friendship with her because you fear what will happen and you do not want to risk your marriage or her marriage. Two, keep hanging out with her, going to her house for lunch, and you will end up giving in because your resolve will weaken and then once you have done it, it will be easier the next time and before you know it, her husband and your wife are standing in the door wanting to know why you and her are naked in the bed together. Your choice.

I just don't understand why a friend would go in the kitchen and come out in something that sexy? You must have provoked her to feel that comfortable at one point. I wouldn't tell anyone. You talked to her and thats that! Leave her alone, if you don't you will be screwing her. Thats maybe what you want, then that is for you to decide. Affair or not?

If you have any respect or love for your wife you will tell her the truth and stop hanging out with your "friend". If your wife loves you she'll believe the truth. If your friend respected you she wouldn't have put you in that position in the first place. I wouldn't tell her husband if I were you though, that could cause some unwanted problems...

Kudos to you for walking out. The moment you stepped into her home for "lunch" you crossed the line. If you love your wife, I suggest you don't tell her what happened and keep away from this woman. Don't put yourself in this situation again.

Just stay away from her. Don't be with her alone anymore.

Be honest with her and tell her you don't want to cheat on your wife or betray the friendship you have with her husband.

She sounds like she's got some issues. Suggest she see a counselor.

Good luck! :)

First of all, I wouldn't consider her a friend anymore. Just tell her that you don't want to do that to your wife, or her husband, and stay away from her.