Absent father question? What do I tell my three yr old daughter when she asks for her dad?

First of all, being a single mother I have to answer this. Your three year old doesn't have the concept yet of someone being her father, she just wants to know where A father is. It is important to be kind to her and not overreact when she talks about a father, just tell her that there are all kinds of families out there. Some with mommies and some with only daddies and some that have a mommy and a daddy. Then tell her that your family is just you and her, and that God wanted it that way. Tell her that not everyone has a daddy, and tell her that not everyone has a mommy. Be very kind and don't ever talk bad about her father. If you are keeping contact with the father, make sure you track it. Once she gets older, like in her teens if she ever tries to resent you because of not having her father at least when she is mature enough you can show her that you tried to keep contact with him, but he was the one who didnt want it. It'll save you a lot of other problems!

First I want to make sure that you are receiving child support from the scumbag for your daughter. Please do not let him get away with not paying child support.

I agree that your daughter shouldn't need a Mommy & a daddy to be happy - you could say that you are her mommy & her daddy.

She doesn't need him to be happy. She just needs to know that some families have mommies and some have daddies, and some don't. You have a family that doesn't. If he's to immature to accept responsibility for his action, then he doesn't deserve a beautiful baby girl.

You could do what I did. When my kids were younger I told them that their daddy wasn't ready to be a daddy. It didn't mean that he doesn't love her just that he wasn't grown up enough to take care of someone so special. Tell her every day that you feel blessed that she is your daughter. Maybe 1 day her father will be man enough to be a daddy, if not it will be his loss.

Explain to her that not all families are the same. Your family doesnt have a daddy, but its still a wonderful family.

I wish there was an easy answer . . . the truth is way too much for that 3 year old heart to handle. . . just be there for her. Be the Mom that you know she deserves. One day she'll realize that having you as a Mom was better than having both parents. Good luck!

It really sounds like your doing the best you can. are there any male figures in your life that could spend time with her? boyfriend, uncle, grandpa? mabey this might help. if they could pick her up one day a week and take her out for some fun. her father is the one who is really missing out, and when she is old enough to understand then he will really regrett his desision.

Next time she asks, tell her you are her daddy.