Should I leave or stay? PLZ GIVE GOOD ADVICE AND EXPLAIN?

No one can make this decision but you. That being said...

I know you family is very important to you, but the best way you can take care of them is by prepairing yourself for a secure future. You sound young and unexperienced. It is that lack of experience which will make it harder to help them in the future. This sounds like a chance for you to become a stronger person with a richer grasp of what college will do for you and will give you a leg up over your classmates in the upcoming freshmen year. Small things that happen now don't matter as much as the complete direction of your life. In the end, the people who depend on you will work things out for themselves but they can't help you achive your goals. Your mother brought you into this world and for that you should be greatful, but she did not bring you here to be a tool towards her own means. You have to find your own way and later when your in a place where you can help, your help will have much more impact then anything you can do now.

Do you really know that you were wrong, becuase by what I just read you do not even see how wrong you were. You have no idea the magnitude of what you have done. Cheating is bad enough, but to cheat on your pregnant girlfriend and to do drugs? Wow. You say you messed up and all but, you are still making excuses for your cheating. You said, "I love her to bits, even though I did cheat i really do love the girl. Things just got out of hand and I needed some comforting from someone who was understanding." See how you make an excuse of your cheating. See the reason why your girlfriend will not take you back is becuase she now sees that every time you two have an argument your going to run off and do drugs and sleep around with someone who will pay you attention and be "understanding". Your very immature and I would not expect to get your girlfriend back for a long time, if not ever at all. I think you are going to have to kiss this relationship goodbye. If you really did love her like you claimed you do then you would not have done what you did in the first place. Leave her alone and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

I cant make a decision for you.. but i can suggest some things..

1. This cousin of yours, talk to her/him..really explain the situation and its seriousness and how it affects your future and everyone at home..

2. Go to the university and find out if this prep course can be done part-time or any other way but which still entitles you in pursuing your goal of entering your 2008 semester.

3. Try to work some arrangement about transport for your brothers after school and see if anyone can help you with that..some schools have a counselor that can help with these issues..

4. Talk to your mums doctor and see if her medication are suitable and if it is really helping her..are there any ways of making her more comfortable..

5. Have a heart to heart talk with your mum about everything.. tell her gently all that you are feeling... i know you love her but some sacrifices are really too difficult ... If you have any relations, maybe you could ask for their help..it may not be for long..just until you finish your course..

6. You might also want to look out for a uni that is closer to your home if things get from bad to worse..try to transfer your course..

Good luck to you.. God bless.

it depends on how old your lil brothers are, and if you are going away at the end of the summer anyway? Are you going to the same College in the fall? MB you can take the college prep classes at a satellite college for Emporia or on line. I would ask the guidance counselor. I have been in similar situations with my family always needing me. If your brothers are at least young teens, its time they stepped up. But if they are real young, it can be a tough decision. Call around and ask some friends of yours who may be able to help you.

This is a tough question. You do what your heart tells you to do. You need a good education. By getting one you will be able to help more in the future. With a better education you will be able to provide money if necessary to help out. Face it, a good education is something you cannot go back and get later. A good education also spells more money in your future. Your Mom must be rather young for you to have younger brothers, she will need help in the future. I hope this all makes sense to you. It will when you are as old as I am. My parents are in their 80's and we had to transfer so I REALLY KNOW HOW YOU FEEL! But I still say get your education, the future is closer than you realize.

Wow you do have a hard decision to make. I am sorry that you are going through this. I am not sure what I would do. I guess this next step is what is going to make or break the rest of your life. If it was me........and after reading this 3 times........I guess I wouldn't go. I would stay and help out my mom. But before you do.....weigh all you options. Does she have anyone who can help her out? Friend, family? Good luck, hon. :)

I would go, kuz if you are going to be the one taking care of the family then you need to have a good job and education to support them I would try it out.

Maybe you can fined someone that is a little more dependable to help you mom then your cousin.

Good luck.

Peace.

If she is really ill, stay one more year, over time help her to get on a budget, if it's about $- and back in relatively good health. It would sort of seem like desertion if you left, with the little brothers and all. They need you too.

You see that your family needs you, so your place is there. New opportunities will be there for you. Honor your mother, love your siblings, be the best person you can be. That is worth more than all the college courses in the world.

man your in a hard situation, But I say go, because in the long run you will be able to take care of her when college is here! What will she do when you go to college?