Abusive Relationship?

My current fiance was in a very abusive relationship. Her husband made her play Russian Roulette. Broke bones, raped her...

The day after he made her play RR, she called her brother and dad and they got friends and all came to her house and moved her stuff out while the husband was at work.

You need to pick a time and a date and call as many friends and relatives as you can and get out while he is gone. Leave no note, leave nothing behind you would have to really go back for. None of your friends or family members should take any calls from him. If he sees them out, they should be instructed not to talk with him. Do not stay by yourself. You need people around you as much as you can to protect yourself from this maniac. Get a Personal Protection Order. Sometimes it is only as good as the paper it is written on, but it is a must in most cities/states to begin criminal prosecution.

You must call the police to begin a history of abuse. You cannot get them to do anything unless he has a record. Not that you want to stick around and be beaten anymore, but you need to begin a file. Does he have a gun? Legally? If he does, filing the PPO will get his weapons taken away.

Please break the cycle of going back to him. Be prepared to leave him for good. He is a worthless piece of S.H.I.T. You my dear, are not!!

God bless you.

First of all i would like to commend you for taking a step in the right direction. i have never been in a physically abusive relationship but i have been in a verbal one. "If he hits you once, and you don't do anything about it he will do it again because he knows that you will let him get away with it.” your staying because your in love then you have to realize that things aren't going to change and you have to accept that although you love him that your relationship isn't healthy a one and you have to love yourself enough to worry about your well being, and just pack up and go. You say that he loves you, i don't mean to be rude but he doesn't. He loves the fact the he can manipulate you, that you make him feel like he has control in this world. which tells me to two things: that he's not very secure about himself and the fact that you let him get away with it for the sake “love” tells me neither are you. The second thing I can tell is that for some odd reason your scared, you believe that you can’t do better then him, yes two years is a long time but trust me you can do better. he has brought you down so low that you can’t or wont leave because your scared your going to end up alone. He says he loves you because he knows that’s what you want to hear. I know that part of wants out that’s why you made your post and this is why I think you go stay with family or a friend and notify the police in order to make sure that it doesn't happen again. But no this if you leave him you can't go back, no matter how much he says he loves you and misses you because if you do then he will know that no matter what he does you will come back. I know its hard to hear but sometimes we need a dose of reality and I just hope your situation works out for the best.

“ Love doesn’t bruise you, make you bleed, or hit you people do”

GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!!

This type of relationship only gets worse. There is plenty of help and support for you if you want to get away from being a punching bag. Contact the sheriff's office and they will either come and get you or put you in touch with the battered women's group. They will have a place you can stay and they will help you get back on your feet.

Listen to what the people there have to tell you. They have seen it all. They also see many women go back for more and sometimes they go back one time too many. They are killed.

Ive never been in one myself but i know someone who has my advice is get out of there if he hit you then that's quite a serious matter you need to get away from him hes not good for you my friend left her guy for hitting her and shes now in a loving relationship with a new guy and they are very happy you deserve to be happy and you don't deserve to be hit so do what you have to to get out of this relationship

First step, Tell him it's over

Second step Get a restraining order

Third step Change your phone number (change residence if that's an option)

Contrary to many people's opinions women can be abusive as well. Yes I've been in one where I had a girlfriend that had uncontrollable rage and jealousy and often resorted to throwing things or just plain going crazy.

Lastly, Abstract nice rationale there Lorenna Bobbitt, what should I have done in my case cut her clit off?

Make a plan. Get all of your important papers together, pack a bag of clothes and have some spare money. Have an extra set of house and car keys made, and line up a place for you to go. Have it all in a safe place so you grab it and run if you have to. File for divorce if maried and get a restraining order against him! THERE ISN'T ANY GOOD REASON TO STAY WITH AN ABUSER, GET OUT ASAP!!!

Yes, I've been in your situation & know how hard it is to leave. My ex. threatened 'he would find me anywhere if I tried to leave.'

I finally got away when he broke my eardrum. I had to barricade myself & my 2 children in the bedroom all night in pain then call my father to get us the next morning when my ex left for work. So, DON'T wait. Find a safe place to go, save some money & make sure you call the police next time he hits you to get it on record. Good luck.

I just split with my wife. She was verbally and physically abusive. Life is too short to listen to that crap. This was the first time I have been w/ a woman like that.

You take the hit, whatever financial, emotional and get out. there are plenty of people out there that will help u get back on feet. *** that crap is over. I am so happy to start fresh.

Leave the abusive relationship this very minute. You can't change the abuser, but you can change yourself. Learn to love yourself again so you don't/won't let someone abuse you again.

Move a muscle and change a thought.

Get some professional counseling to get over this if you need it.

I've been abused by an ex..I got out cause I knew deep down I deserved better..and I also learned to love myself. Now, I'm married to the most wonderful man..that's never put a hand on me, who respects me for me ...trust me there are guys out there that will treat you like you want to be treated...Guys that beat on their girlfriends or wives are cowards and need to grow up...they just want to control you. And relationships aren't about controlling.