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i have a friend who we seen every sat night. then one sat he shows up and says he has went to church been saved ect but now acts like he is to good to talk to us. my question is this how do you go from drinking, cussing, flirting with a married woman when your married. to being to good to hang with your friends anymore? and isnt being a christian all about forgivness and helping your neighbors? if he thinks we are all of a sudden going to hell or whatever instead of not talking to us shouldnt he be trying to help? i just dont get this at all. im glad he has found God and wants to live rite i have NO problems with that but why cant he be friends like we always were? and how do you go from being rowdy to religious is 6days?

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i never said i wasnt happy for him in fact i said that i was i have no problem with that because i dont drink and party anyway. just because i said he did doesnt mean that i do it. i wouldnt try to temp him and he knows that we have been best friends for alot of yrs our kids have grown up as cousins. im srry but no excuse can make it rite to just shun us now. all he would have to do is say hey can we go eat where there isnt alcohol or something like that and i would be fine with that.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    wow, he's a born-again hypocrite

  • 1 decade ago

    You are right he should be trying to help, but on the other hand i am sure that he is very weak so he may be trying to avoid sinful situations, when he becomes strong in the lord he will come around and see the mistakes he is doing now, as far as being rowdy to religious in 6 days, well Jesus can open a persons eyes in just a second.

    Also with the way he is shunning you he may not hold the real truth of God.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Therefore if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation; old things have passed away, and look, new things have come.

    2 Corinthians 5:17

    you took off your former way of life, the old man that is corrupted by deceitful desires; you are being renewed in the spirit of your minds; you put on the new man, the one created according to God’s [likeness] in righteousness and purity of the truth.

    Since you put away lying, Speak the truth, each one to his neighbor, because we are members of one another. Be angry and do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger, and don’t give the Devil an opportunity. The thief must no longer steal. Instead, he must do honest work with his own hands, so that he has something to share with anyone in need.

    No rotten talk should come from your mouth, but only what is good for the building up of someone in need, in order to give grace to those who hear. And don’t grieve God’s Holy Spirit, who sealed you for the day of redemption. All bitterness, anger and wrath, insult and slander must be removed from you, along with all wickedness. And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.

    Ephesians 4:22-32

  • 1 decade ago

    The truth of it is this. When you become a Christian you have to change into how you feel Christ would want you to be. And of course he want's us to be as much like him as possible. I don't think he thinks he is better than you, but that in order for him to be a good Christian, he will have to change his ways and a lot of his old habits. He will have to maybe even stop associating with some of his old friends. Let me give you an example. Would it make sense to you to stop using crack and then continue to hang around in the crack house? To much temptation there, don't you think? Being luke warn is like being half way. You cannot be halfway a Christian. As you stated yourself, He used to curse, he used to be rowdy. But you keep saying used to be. And easily can you go from being a sinner to a Christian if you make up your mind to. Maybe he is surpassing you guys in maturity. Maybe through the grace of God he understands now that his soul is more important than your friendship. Are you really, his friend? You should be incouraging your friend, and telling him how proud of him you are that he has decided to make changes for the best. Why are you angry because he has decided to love God. Join him, you know God wants you to go to heaven too. As for him he is smart to know that you cannot stay around people that are associates of Satans. He should tell you guys to come and join him or shake the dust off of his feet, and feel no guilt. After all, he owes God everything. God created him, God has a place for him to be happy for eternity after this life. If he will continue to follow him.What better gift than that could a person ask for. Can you offer him a better deal than that? Love your friend, be happy for him.

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  • When people get "saved" they change. You have to be a friend and understand that this change is for his religious belief. He is not doing anything to you, but honoring his believe and when you make those kinds of comitments, you have to change. You said he was known to cuss, drink and womanize around you. That's what you symbolize in his life, he can not hang around you anymore. When you get saved, that means your life you had is no more, you become anew. Maybe you should read about it at www.bible.com so you can understand your "new" friend and what you can do to continue your relationship with him. Good luck with it all.

    Source(s): www.bible.com
  • 1 decade ago

    When a person becomes Born Again (i.e. enters into a relationship with Jesus), he or she becomes a new person -- and is expected to turn away from their formal sinful behavior. A Christian is also cautioned against being "unequally yoked," in other words, having close friendships with non-Christians, or with Christians who have back slidden (are living in sin). It sounds as if your friend has decided that his former friends were a bad influence. If you still desire to be his friend, why not start going to church with him? Maybe he can show you why he now believes the way he does.

  • Adonai
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Often enough religions do just this to personalities by making them "feel special"; this self-intepretation of "above the rest" is on him and not you.

    It is funny how one delves into a "Religion" and misses the Entire Message of Truth while ignoring the word and embracing the idea of "Religion" above the very Truth that was intended.

    I find this common place and disturbing as the personality has obtained the exact opposite of what they sought.

  • 1 decade ago

    You state in your question that one Sat nite he shows up and tells you he has been saved.....this is good....now my question for you is this....do you think that maybe it could be you that is uncomfortable around him....he sounds like according to your question he is trying to still be your friend otherwise why would he come over at all..but he as a Christian will not return to his old way's he now is a new creature in Christ......if you value his friendship....give him the chance to tell you all that the Lord has done for him.....

  • 1 decade ago

    Because God got ahold of his heart and is making big changes in his life. He is trying to do right and probable feels if he is around his old friends to long he will get back into what he should not be doing.

  • delana
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    when someone just finds Christ , there life changes , and if you can see a change in them , they have really found him.yes he should be willing to help and not shut you all out, but may not want to be tempted with all the things that he was once doing .

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I went from rowdy to religion if four days, beat that!

    It varies from person to person. Maybe your friend feels tempted to do what he considers wrong when around you. I know I was around my friends when I first changed.

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