Marriage and Religion?

There are some basic issues that need to be ironed out before a couple will be able to be successful in a relationship in the long term. One of the big ones is religion.

If you are a fundamentalist baptist and your fiance is a druid, there are things you need to talk about. If you don't, and everything works out fine, it is because one or the other of you isn't really believing what you claim to believe. You're probably both following weak versions of your faith. That's OK from a relationship standpoint, but if one or the other of you suddenly figures out that he or she isn't being faithful to his or her beliefs, then you're going to have tension.

This is a huge reason why I married someone who shared my religious beliefs. We talked through all this. We've grown in our faith together as a couple and it has made a lot of decisions easier... because we're both coming from the same place. Twenty five years so far and no plans to give up.

My husband, of 2 years, is a different religion than I am. He is an athiest and I am an aggonostic, babtized lutherun. I have no problem with him being of a different relgion, or lack of, than I am, in fact I like it. It makes the relationship more interesting, we have more things to talk about, more views to think about. I think as long as you have the same morals and same values about marriage and life and children, then your religions shouldn't matter in the relationship.

If he changed it now, I would be fine with it, as long as he didn't change and he didn't try to push his new found religion upon me.

In fact, the only problem, I have ever had with his difference in religion is when we got married. I really wanted to get married in a church. Not for the religious aspect as much as tradition, everyone in my family got married there. But he would have had to gotten babtized and he didn't want that and I wasn't going to push him.. so we comprimised, which is what marriage is about.

I couldn't be with someone religious - any religion.

I can get on perfectly well with them as long as we both respect the other one's beliefs ... but most religious people love their god/higher being more than anyone else, including their children.

I couldn't handle being second or lower place to an idea I view as imaginary.

To put it in a way the religious will understand, how would you feel if your partner turned around and said, "Honey, I love you but I love the Easter Bunny more"?

There are different values and lifestyle with different religions. Some people are so devoted that they want their whole life to reflect their love of God. A lot of Christians believe in the 10 commandments. They are not just suggestions to most believers. If you dont have the same goals in life, it just wont work.

I've only dated people of the different faiths, I don't plan it that way, it just works out that way. As long as we don't try to change one another we get on fine, for the most part it doesn't really come up. If I ever did want to get married I could see it working there too.

If you can't think long-term with this question then don't get involved with him/her.

Think of kids...what religion would you want them to have? Think of friends and get-togethers and activities outside the home.

It's important to be in the same church, to be involved together in worship etc.

If you don't think it's important then you may not be that faithful to your religion.

I grew up catholic but really I changed to just a "generic Christian" and now go to a non-denominational church. So we just praise Jesus and that's it. Quite simple.

Perhaps you can both do the same? Just be more generic? and don't have stringent beliefs like a lot of different sects?

HM... well, to avoid some conflicts and problems raising future children it is better to marry someone of the same religion, however, it depends in the person.

I would prefer date someone of my same religion because if I get married I want to marry and be sealed in the temple and in order to have a temple marriage both of us have to be LDS and temple endowed. Law marriage is OK, but I have always dreamed to marry under God's law, not the man's law.

If he would change his beliefs after we're married I'd be disappointed but if I married with this person is because I really love him and when you are really in love you will always love that person and when you marry you commit to be with the person and be with the person no matter the situation. Love is huge.

Yes, Not only because its SO much easier when you have someone to grow with, but also because I would want to raise my kids as christians. I believe in being " equally yoked" as it says in the bible.

So my solution to this problem is to not date someone who is not a christian. That way I wont be leaving anyone. And if they change their religion, then It wasnt meant to be. I would rather spend my life waiting for the right christian man, then spend my life struggling with the non christian that I married.

you recognize what isn't smart to me? Why the "loving" christion god could create homosexuals, after which condemn them. If their god already would not settle for them, is it fairly a huge deal he won't approve of their marriage? Christianity sounds like a constructive, loving, accepting faith. sign me up for a number of that. Oh, that grow to be sarcasm, in case you're able to be able to desire to no longer tell.

it depends what belief it is. if they are just another denomination and believe God came in the flesh, believe in the trinity, the death and risen of Christ, that Christ is Gods son then it dont matter. but if i believe all that and they dont then no i wouldnt! (1 Corinthians 15:33) says dont be misled bad company corrupts good character plus the marriage would just have strife in it cuz there would be to many differences.