Is it wrong to feel this way about my mom and her boyfriend?

I agree with "The Quiet One". I hope she understands and takes it to heart and really listens to you again. It would break my heart if that was my child and I would want to change my actions. Good luck sweetie.

Talk to your mom again and tell her the same that you wrote her and let her know that you are starting to hate her and you should not feel this way. If things do not change between you two just tell her that you are going to stay with your dad where you know that you can get the love and attention you need. You should never put your man before your kids because when he leaves you will still be there and you will need to comfort her and make her feel better about her self. He also has to know that she has to have some kind of mom and daughter time. Since he's over there so much do he have a place to stay? Just sit down and tell her and if not I would leave and let her be just the way she wants it alone.

Listen honey you need to sit down with your mom and tell her that you have something really important to tell her, then tell her you are pregnant ( only if you are like 16 or 17 ), while she is sitting ther with her jaw on the floor...say sike, mom I am not pregant, but that was the only thing that I could think of to get your thoughts on me. Let her know how you feel and that you miss her. If my daughter told me the things that you just wrote, I would probably cry. Now if you act out or rebel, it isn't going to help, it will more than likely make it worse. I am sure your mom has no idea that you feel this way and once she does and am sure she will change it. No mother in their right mind would chose a man over their child. Good luck

I'm not sure what you can do since you've already tried talking to her about it. You might try again though. Maybe she didn't take you seriously the first time. It's not uncommon for the children to feel the way you do so she may not have been aware of how seriously you feel.

I think you should talk to her again. Tell her exactly what you told us, "I feel so disappointed, lonely, and like I'm not good enough." Be sure she understands that you're not simply jealous of her boyfriend but that you feel she's neglecting you to be with him. In fact, if you can, it may be a good idea to talk to both of them at the same time about it. They may not be aware that they're effecting you the way they are. Whatever you do, no matter how upset you are, don't begin an argument. Speak to your mother, or both her and her boyfriend, in a calm and rational way. If you act in an adult manner they'll probably treat your complaints in a better way.

Whatever happens, you have every right to feel the way you do and it's not "wrong." It's not an easy adjustment you're going through.

Good luck to you!

her that you have something really important to tell her, then tell her you are pregnant ( only if you are like 16 or 17 ), while she is sitting ther with her jaw on the floor...say sike, mom I am not pregant, but that was the only thing that I could think of to get your thoughts on me. Let her know how you feel and that you miss her. If my daughter told me the things that you just wrote, I would probably cry. Now if you act out or rebel, it isn't going to help, it will more than likely make it worse. I am sure your mom has no idea that you feel this way and once she does and am sure she will change it. No mother in their right

I went through this too with my mom, she was always needing a man in her life and I always felt as though I came second. This is a really tough situation because what you will be asking of her may be hard for her to do. Tell her exactly what you told us, in fact you could show her if you want. She needs to realize how much this hurts you and really so does he. It doesn't sound like she is doing the right thing by you if this has been going on for years now! They should both be making an attempt to involve you in thier relationship, not alienate you. That means that you need to try as well. I wish you the best!

Tell her again that she doesn't spend much time with you. Tell her that you notice that no matter what you say to her about missing being with her, she always makes time to be with her boyfriend. Ask her if she really wants you to learn to dislike this boyfriend because of the way he interferes with your life. Tell her you probably wouldn't feel that way if you and she could spend more time together. I hope that if you laid all of this out for her, telling her your feelings and mentioning the steady presence of this guy, she would realize that things will work out a lot better if she just gets some balance in the home. It's only logical.

I can almost guarantee that your mom does not really understand how you truly feel. You are the most important person in her life. Believe it. Tell her exactly what you wrote to us here on YA. Pick a time when your mom is not busy to talk to her.

Give her another chance. It sounds like she is happy that she has found someone she enjoys spending time with. Be realistic about your expectations. It is not fair to expect your mom to give up that part of her life. You just want more time with her, right? Tell her that. Also, the boyfriend wants you to like him, so maybe you could all do more things together.

Hope this helps, and good luck with your talk.

You need to show your mom this posting. It may be hard for you to do, but you need to let her know how you feel. Your mom is just lost in the feeling of being in love. It's an easy thing to do. But it doesn't have to interfere with her role as a mother. You need to let her know that you miss and want to spend more time with her. It's also normal to resent the boyfriend ...after all he's standing between you and your mom.....even though I doubt that's his intention. But you are a package deal with your mom, and a good man will respect that. I don't think you need to look for a new place to live....work on fixing the one you have. This will be a good place for you to learn to communicate. Trust me, you will need that skill for the rest of your life. Talk to your mom. I'm sure she loves you and doesn't realize how her actions make you feel. She has enough love for both of you.

I had a similar difficulty, yet with my very own father and mom :/ i stumbled on that the only thank you to handle it truly is to take a stand. in case you be a much bigger guy, that could help lots, yet oftentimes thats no longer the case. first of all, communicate on your father and mom approximately it at present. This guy ought to kill or heavily injury your gf every time he needs to and as of now, no one is scuffling with him. in case you haven't any longer have been given the flexibility to give up him your self, have your loved ones assist you to, determine which you do say you're actually not constructive approximately it, it must be accident, yet you have a robust reason to have faith this. He ought to look like jesus, yet that doesnt mean he's.

See if you can get her to read this.

When my children were very young I spent lots of time with them. When they got older I did the same as your mother is doing (my husband and I divorced and I had a boyfriend). Now my children are grown with children of their own. I wish more than anything I had spent more time with my children and less with my boyfriend. Your children will always be a part of your life, boyfriends come and go. My daughter is in her late twenties now. She has issues stemming from those days. If I had spent more time with her I believe she would not have some of the issues. It hurts me to know I did this to her.