My 17 year old got loaded with my 21 year old sister and I am now mad at her am i right in my anger.?

I would be very angry. I partied a lot when I was 17, but not with my aunt.

For me more of the issue is that you asked her not to allow this to happen and she did anyway. She's your sister, she's supposed to help you raise your children, not go against what you believe in.

I would be so angry that I would not be able to even think straight. How dare she ruin the visit like that.

If she is only 21, she really doesn't know what you were like at 17, but that is really beside the point.

I am so sorry that happened and ruined your visit. Your sister is extremely irresponsible, plus now that she is 21, she can be held criminally and civilly liable. She needs to think about that before she gets another minor loaded.

I don't think you are wrong to be mad. If someone took my son and got him drunk once, was told not to do it again, and then did, I'd be freakin furious! Granted, no one twisted his arm and he made the decision to drink, but your sister is supposed to be watching him while he is in her company. If your son hadn't done any drinking up until this point, you're damn lucky. Try talking to your son. Tell him your concerns about drinking and drugs. As much as your sister is responsible for him, he is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong. If it happened again however, I would not allow my son to be with his aunt again until she respected your wishes.

Man, I would be pissed! His aunt is someone who is supposed to set an example and someone he should be looking up to. To me it sounds like she can't handle that sort of responsibility right now and you should not let your son go out with her anymore. You should also tell your son the dangers of abusing cold medicines and alcohol. He's not going to want to hear this but at the same time you shouldn't be having to tell him this if his aunt was more responsible and respectful to you and your son. Let him know how it makes you feel to see him like that and that he shouldn't party like that until he can control himself and be safe.

hell yeah you have every right to be p/o @ her. you are that boys mother. although noone forced your son, your sis is close to his age and peer pressure is a b**ch,from friend and even worse when a family member is saying its ok. but by NO means that justify her 'supplying' pills and alchol to a under-aged person family or not, nor does it justify his accepting the invite to 'party' simply b/c a 17 year old knows what is acceptable and expected from his mom, and he certainly knows right from wrong. i would not let them be alone for a long while.nor any calls. anytime they would like to visit make sure you are there to supervise.

Oh Yeah you have very right. Maybe you should put your foot down and tell her she is not allowed to see or speak to him till she wants to respect your wishes. It doesn't matter what you were like at 17 how dare her teach your son things like that. You need to tell her if she wants to teach her kids that way that is her bed to make but, leave your son to you to raise and teach she going to pay for rehab if it goes that far?......sorry :)

Yes, but now you know your sister is not mature enough to look after your son.

You can't protect your children from bad outside influences besides what you teach inside the home, but you do not expect your sister to be the bad influence.

u right he is still a minor....if he continues this as a adult kick him out..

you are absolutely right

i dont think so you made any mistake

yes. And I would be really mad also.